|
|
STICKY:
PROTECT YOUR ANONYMITY
(Preview)
BIG WELCOME to all of you newcomers...SO glad to see you joining us I just wanted to say that when you make your profiles out, some use the first and last name...OVER 4,000 People can see that...So suggestion is to use first name and maybe last initial or no initial...Date of birth is risky as well..... W...
|
mamalioness
|
4
|
228
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
SELF CARE_LOVING YOURSELF
(Preview)
Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing: 1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.2. Fearing change. Know that life is ro...
|
mamalioness
|
18
|
1269
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Effects, Defenses and Recovery from Abuse
(Preview)
Effects, Defenses and Recovery from AbuseNotes on Abuse Effects of Abuse1. Low or no self-esteem 2. Often feels responsible and blames self 3. Inability to trust self and others (may trust, but trusts wrong people) 4. Sense of worthlessness 5. Isolation 6. Sense of being helpless 7. Strong denial...
|
mamalioness
|
5
|
1340
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
How Did You Find Us?
(
1 2
)
(Preview)
As Co-Moderators, mamalioness and I are trying to re-energize this site and attract new members. We have several outreach initiatives, and would like to know which ones are working. How did you find out about this site? We hope you join our experience, strength, and hope!  In Recovery, Prin...
|
Mrs_Snoopy
|
70
|
1761
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
MORE characteristics of Adult children and/or CoDa
(Preview)
Common signs that you may be a codependent abuser: · Constantly seek approval and affirmation from your mate, having no sense of self identity outside a relationship · Inability to feel comfortable when alone · Feelings of being different or not like others · Confusion, or a deep sense of inade...
|
mamalioness
|
1
|
1448
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Adult Child Characteristics
(Preview)
Adult Child Characteristics1. Adult children guess at what normal is.There is no frame of reference for what it is like to be in a normal household. You also have no frame of reference for what is O.K. to say and feel. In a more typical situation, one does not have to walk on eggs all the time. Because you d...
|
mamalioness
|
18
|
1270
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
the 12 steps to reparenting and reclaiming ourselves & other wisdoms
(Preview)
By Patricia OGorman Ph.D., and Phil Diaz, M.S.W.Step 1Admitted our powerlessness to change our past that our lives had become unmanageable and became willing to surrender to our love and not to our fear.Step 2Find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through faith and an acceptance of the f...
|
mamalioness
|
7
|
1170
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
12 steps for adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families
(Preview)
We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God.M...
|
mamalioness
|
12
|
1204
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Welcome to the ACA program. My story!!
(Preview)
When I came here 14 years ago, broken, disillusioned, no hope left, I was literally a mess... A friend of mine (when I was about to try again to commit suicide) told me "give ACA 12 steps 30 days...30 days is all I ask, and if it does not help you BE better, THINK better, FEEL better, I won't try and stop you f...
|
mamalioness
|
12
|
2293
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
The Laundry List
(Preview)
Tony A., the founder of Adult Children of Alcoholics, wrote The Laundry List in 1978. This defines the nature of our ACoA issues; our major problems and common behavior patterns. If you identify with a majority of these issues, this is the place for you! (Excerpted from The Laundry List: The ACoA E...
|
Mrs_Snoopy
|
6
|
1646
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Welcome, Newcomers!
(Preview)
Welcome to Adult Children Anonymous, a forum on the Miracles In Progress site! We were founded in 2004 by John F., who passed away in 2017. An intergroup Transition Committee then formed to handle the bills and business affairs as needed. All trusted servants are volunteers. We roughly follow th...
|
Mrs_Snoopy
|
9
|
1233
|
|
|
|
|
|
STICKY:
Share your story here.
(
1 2 3 4 5 … 8
)
(Preview)
Please feel free to share an intro, your story or anything else that will allow us to get to know you here. Welcome to the family.  To view the most recent post, click the largest blue number next to the thread heading, or while in the thread, at the bottom of the screen where it says 'pages' and use...
|
tasha
|
469
|
76206
|
|
|
|
|
hello fellow travellers :)
(Preview)
Hello friends! My name is Lucas - I'm new to the forum. I've been in recovery (AA and DA) for some years now, but only recently have come to see just how much of an ACA I am... 'Approval addiction' and fear of disapproval and abandonment have always been huge issues in my life.. in many ways they are like cor...
|
ZenDancer
|
4
|
40
|
|
|
|
|
|
Lonely / single mom and only child
(Preview)
Hi, Im a single mom and an only child of an alcoholic mother. From a young age, I always felt like I was outside looking in. I?ve been terrified of ending up alone because for many reasons. One is that I know when my parents die, it?ll just be me. And I wanted to start my own family so I could belong somewhere....
|
Rachelf075
|
1
|
61
|
|
|
|
|
|
Complete beginner looking for a online group
(Preview)
Dear fellow souls I am completely new to this and find myself against the ropes so to speak, I was put onto ACA through a wise friend further down the path than myself, Im just looking for advice on finding an online support groups to start my healing and recovery, knowing and admitting I have lost all con...
|
Chaosmagika
|
8
|
82
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm a Newcomer and I have no idea what I'm Doing
(Preview)
Hello folks, So for a start, I'm a 21 year old Adult child of an alcoholic that recently just realized I needed to stop putting off what trauma I went through and actually take initiative to reach out and heal. That leads me here, unsure where to start. Recently I picked up the Big Red Book and also read Jan...
|
T3
|
3
|
84
|
|
|
|
|
|
Daily Journaling
(Preview)
I just wanted to bring this up because its been critical to my healing process. I've been through so many things in my life it honestly was a life saver. I write in it almost every night but what is amazing (I've been doing it for years) when I look back its amazing the growth I made and all the evolving I've d...
|
Irishgirl
|
3
|
77
|
|
|
|
|
|
Looking for a sponsor!!!
(Preview)
Hello, I am new, lost and dizzy. Looking for a sponsor. I do not know anything and I've got information overflow now. Like this is all I needed .. I do not know what a sponsor should do for me but I hope he/she can do only good things. Thanks, Lisa
|
Lisa Connely
|
3
|
96
|
|
|
|
|
|
Friendships/Relationships
(Preview)
I'm brand new here and was directed her by my thearpist. I'm the Adult daughter of an alcoholic father and perscription addict mother. I don't know if anyone else has this issue but I'm having a very difficult issue with friendships they we're all alcoholic's and relationships the guys we're either a...
|
Irishgirl
|
6
|
105
|
|
|
|
|
|
New and Need Guidance
(Preview)
Hi everyone, Thank you for being here. I am 32, married for almost 6 years, a 1.5 yr old ray of sunshine and have 4 pets. I truly have a lot to be thankful for. I was able to cut my alcoholic and drama king father out of my life when I was 3 months pregnant. This was tough on my mother who unfortunately still live...
|
Puzzler88
|
8
|
127
|
|
|
|
|
|
New member
(Preview)
I wanna let go of the pain and move forward so I can love fully and not fearful or resisting How??
|
NeverHeard88
|
8
|
517
|
|
|
|
|
|
Step one
(Preview)
What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?
|
Kate1123
|
3
|
193
|
|
|
|
|
|
Quick hellowhen I have
(Preview)
Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time
|
Kristin71
|
5
|
505
|
|
|
|
|
|
Tired but THANKFUL
(Preview)
Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...
|
LU
|
2
|
208
|
|
|
|
|
|
Hello - My first post
(Preview)
Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...
|
phoenix
|
11
|
254
|
|
|
|
|
|
Where do I start?
(Preview)
Hi all,
I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?
|
ChrisJH
|
6
|
551
|
|
|
|
|
|
Where do I start?
(Preview)
Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired o...
|
Gbsb31
|
8
|
328
|
|
|
|
|
|
Ready and willing for change
(Preview)
My path to recovery has had lots of sharp turns. I started attending Al-Anon meeting in June 2019, but after about 3 months I felt I was in the wrong place and started attending AA meetings. I got a sponsor and started working the steps, but again I still get the feeling like I dont belong and I dont feel lik...
|
flagship2020
|
6
|
266
|
|
|
|
|
|
Introduction
(Preview)
Hi, I commented on a post yesterday with a very short intro. I was made aware of ACA by my therapist back in about 1988. When I sat in that first meeting and recognized myself in most of the characteristics of adult children, I knew I belonged, except that I couldn't reconcile the fact there was no alcoh...
|
SongWoman
|
3
|
260
|
|
|
|
|
|
new and lost
(Preview)
Hello all, I have recently rediscovered ACOA after talking to my mom about Al-anon and I would just appreciate some guidance from those who have been working on this for a while. I just turned 20 yesterday and I have been trying to navigate my relationship with my alcoholic father for the past 4 years. W...
|
forgrace
|
7
|
467
|
|
|
