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mamalioness · mamalioness

Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing: 1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.2. Fearing change. Know that life is ro...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Effects, Defenses and Recovery from AbuseNotes on Abuse Effects of Abuse1. Low or no self-esteem 2. Often feels responsible and blames self 3. Inability to trust self and others (may trust, but trusts wrong people) 4. Sense of worthlessness 5. Isolation 6. Sense of being helpless 7. Strong denial...

Mrs_Snoopy · Mrs_Snoopy

As Co-Moderators, mamalioness and I are trying to re-energize this site and attract new members. We have several outreach initiatives, and would like to know which ones are working. How did you find out about this site? We hope you join our experience, strength, and hope!

In Recovery, Prin...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Common signs that you may be a codependent abuser: · Constantly seek approval and affirmation from your mate, having no sense of self identity outside a relationship · Inability to feel comfortable when alone · Feelings of being different or not like others · Confusion, or a deep sense of inade...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Adult Child Characteristics1. Adult children guess at what normal is.There is no frame of reference for what it is like to be in a normal household. You also have no frame of reference for what is O.K. to say and feel. In a more typical situation, one does not have to walk on eggs all the time. Because you d...

mamalioness · mamalioness

By Patricia OGorman Ph.D., and Phil Diaz, M.S.W.Step 1Admitted our powerlessness to change our past that our lives had become unmanageable and became willing to surrender to our love and not to our fear.Step 2Find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through faith and an acceptance of the f...

mamalioness · mamalioness

We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God.M...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When I came here 14 years ago, broken, disillusioned, no hope left, I was literally a mess... A friend of mine (when I was about to try again to commit suicide) told me "give ACA 12 steps 30 days...30 days is all I ask, and if it does not help you BE better, THINK better, FEEL better, I won't try and stop you f...

Mrs_Snoopy · Mrs_Snoopy

Tony A., the founder of Adult Children of Alcoholics, wrote The Laundry List in 1978. This defines the nature of our ACoA issues; our major problems and common behavior patterns. If you identify with a majority of these issues, this is the place for you! (Excerpted from The Laundry List: The ACoA E...

Mrs_Snoopy · Mrs_Snoopy

Welcome to Adult Children Anonymous, a forum on the Miracles In Progress site! We were founded in 2004 by John F., who passed away in 2017. An intergroup Transition Committee then formed to handle the bills and business affairs as needed. All trusted servants are volunteers. We roughly follow th...

tasha · tasha

Please feel free to share an intro, your story or anything else that will allow us to get to know you here. Welcome to the family.

To view the most recent post, click the largest blue number next to the thread heading, or while in the thread, at the bottom of the screen where it says 'pages' and use...

david · david

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxnx72ouewA&t=64s I am having a bit of a relapse, at the moment. Well I hope it is a relapse! ... I found this speaker helpful. In this group we are a bit starved for sight and sound. Body language and voice intonation. A saving grace, though, for those o...

david · david

[https://adultchildren.org/meditation/] -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:06:27 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:07:07 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:04:46 PM

david · david

Hi y'all... I tried to understand boundaries- which were invisible, and ephemeral... so I focussed on personal space- and was mostly aware of other people's personal space. So then I began to focus on my own. I felt that my true self was emerging from the trauma [stored] and the gloom... and it...

david · david

Hi y'all... those Americans are real fanatics on dem der steps... Not so hot on the traditions, apart for the first one or two... [in my view]. On this board we have the steps, traditions, and the concepts... ...that means do have a structure behind us- and safeguards... for embers... member...

david · david

Hi y'all... I am an oldie here. It is Sunday morning already, here in NZ... looks like a warm day- coming up. Been in Alanon for 36 years. ACA took a while to start up here- in this country. And the whole nation only has four groups. Part of my dream/goal ... was to learn enough- with this internati...

david · david

Hmmm I think our group here- has naturally adopted these traits...... A good check-list. https://themighty.com/2018/09/what-is-a-safe-person/?utm_source=newsletter_trauma&utm_medium=email&;utm_campaign=newsletter_trauma_2019-04-09&fbclid=IwAR16Y0vj7r...

Neos2 · Neos2

Tired of being depressed.Want to cry but feel stuck in my stomach.Thoughts all over the place.Phoned my son and a couple friends but didn't make me feel any better.Am angry also.was punching my bed.havent accepted my sisters death seem to be on a merry go round.got told don't stay in grief.Well how do...

Riley87 · Riley87

hello everyone, I am quite new to this... I actually just discovered this and I find it quite interesting... A little backstory on myself, I grew up with a functioning alcohol as my mother, I struggled quite a bit growing up... she was loving and then quite distant and harsh. She actually ended up in...

annt · annt

I keep feeling suicidal, rage, and sick to my stomach. I don't know how to cope.

david · david

...well, yes it is- in the end. The process of letting go- emotionally just seems extremely hard- impossible even. It does not have to be done here. We adult children are just so resilient. We are born survivors. ... So if you are sitting here- and reading this through- I would count you as a survivo...

Naturalmama406 · Naturalmama406

Hi this is my first attempt at a meeting. I've been struggling with co-dependency that I inherited from my mom. My life has become unmanageable. So I'm doing this workbook called "repeat after me". It's a therapy for adult children of alcoholics. It's very difficult so far but also rewarding. I'm hav...

david · david

Hi y'all... not sure if this shows in the USA...!!! Please let me know- if not... ACA helps me through- gets me through- but Janet offered me hope. Right from the beginning.

david · david

Hi y'all... It is the 24th here already- Sunday morning... do I want to indulge myself by mentioning this first... ...as I write I have to search for a word- like indulge... and more and more often i find it. A clarity- which once eluded me. The phrase was "suffer in silence". This really underlines the d...

david · david

Promise 2: Our self esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basis. It is a small miracle, for me, to write out this quote. In times past this phrase would have just gone on one ear- and out the other. Forgotten forever. Inn the BRB there is an exercise on page 444- which is mirror wor...

annt · annt

My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?

Neos2 · Neos2

I need a reminder that my life has become un manageable.today is rough.Got up feeling exhausted got up ate a green smoothie.Went back to bed just rested.the mind doing what it'll do.Watch my mom and family do the do do do thing.dont have to be like my family.Sister came over and for the first time stayed...

david · david

Step One. Admitted that I was powerless and that my life had become unmanageable. There are different versions and variants for the steps. Especially for adult children. I might argue that my life was always unmanageable. And in Step Two my higher power cannot restore me to sanity- because there...

HM · HM

Hello, My name is Hannah from Australia. I am a member of AA and I am interested in ACA. My sister is very interested in joining ACA. I am going to pass this site to her today. She wants to find a female sponsor to take her through the steps. If anyone has availability and/or suggestions this would be great...

LoveYourLife · LoveYourLife

Hi! Have just joined and finding it all rather overwhelming! Is there an 'ACA 12 Steps for Dummies' post I can read please?! I've just read the sticky post about the steps, what they are. I've read about the laundry list, about the promises, and the reparenting steps. I've read a few posts with peop...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	STICKY: SELF CARE_LOVING YOURSELF (Preview) Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing: 1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.2. Fearing change. Know that life is ro...	mamalioness	1	224	July 8th by AprilDenean
	STICKY: Effects, Defenses and Recovery from Abuse (Preview) Effects, Defenses and Recovery from AbuseNotes on Abuse Effects of Abuse1. Low or no self-esteem 2. Often feels responsible and blames self 3. Inability to trust self and others (may trust, but trusts wrong people) 4. Sense of worthlessness 5. Isolation 6. Sense of being helpless 7. Strong denial...	mamalioness	3	274	July 8th by AprilDenean
	STICKY: How Did You Find Us? (Preview) As Co-Moderators, mamalioness and I are trying to re-energize this site and attract new members. We have several outreach initiatives, and would like to know which ones are working. How did you find out about this site? We hope you join our experience, strength, and hope! In Recovery, Prin...	Mrs_Snoopy	30	490	July 30th by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: MORE characteristics of Adult children and/or CoDa (Preview) Common signs that you may be a codependent abuser: · Constantly seek approval and affirmation from your mate, having no sense of self identity outside a relationship · Inability to feel comfortable when alone · Feelings of being different or not like others · Confusion, or a deep sense of inade...	mamalioness	1	275	Nov 29, 2018 by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: Adult Child Characteristics (Preview) Adult Child Characteristics1. Adult children guess at what normal is.There is no frame of reference for what it is like to be in a normal household. You also have no frame of reference for what is O.K. to say and feel. In a more typical situation, one does not have to walk on eggs all the time. Because you d...	mamalioness	15	394	Nov 18, 2018 by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: the 12 steps to reparenting and reclaiming ourselves & other wisdoms (Preview) By Patricia OGorman Ph.D., and Phil Diaz, M.S.W.Step 1Admitted our powerlessness to change our past that our lives had become unmanageable and became willing to surrender to our love and not to our fear.Step 2Find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through faith and an acceptance of the f...	mamalioness	5	463	July 9th by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: 12 steps for adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families (Preview) We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God.M...	mamalioness	0	320	Aug 29, 2018 by mamalioness
	STICKY: Welcome to the ACA program. My story!! (Preview) When I came here 14 years ago, broken, disillusioned, no hope left, I was literally a mess... A friend of mine (when I was about to try again to commit suicide) told me "give ACA 12 steps 30 days...30 days is all I ask, and if it does not help you BE better, THINK better, FEEL better, I won't try and stop you f...	mamalioness	12	605	April 25th by mamalioness
	STICKY: The Laundry List (Preview) Tony A., the founder of Adult Children of Alcoholics, wrote The Laundry List in 1978. This defines the nature of our ACoA issues; our major problems and common behavior patterns. If you identify with a majority of these issues, this is the place for you! (Excerpted from The Laundry List: The ACoA E...	Mrs_Snoopy	4	558	April 25th by mamalioness
	STICKY: Welcome, Newcomers! (Preview) Welcome to Adult Children Anonymous, a forum on the Miracles In Progress site! We were founded in 2004 by John F., who passed away in 2017. An intergroup Transition Committee then formed to handle the bills and business affairs as needed. All trusted servants are volunteers. We roughly follow th...	Mrs_Snoopy	1	546	Mar 17, 2018 by david
	STICKY: Share your story here. ( 1 2 3 4 5 … 8 ) (Preview) Please feel free to share an intro, your story or anything else that will allow us to get to know you here. Welcome to the family. To view the most recent post, click the largest blue number next to the thread heading, or while in the thread, at the bottom of the screen where it says 'pages' and use...	tasha	462	44054	13 days ago by Mrs_Snoopy
	A link I found helpful, this morning... (Preview) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxnx72ouewA&t=64s I am having a bit of a relapse, at the moment. Well I hope it is a relapse! ... I found this speaker helpful. In this group we are a bit starved for sight and sound. Body language and voice intonation. A saving grace, though, for those o...	david	0	107	May 28th by david
	Today's reading from SMR... (Preview) [https://adultchildren.org/meditation/] -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:06:27 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:07:07 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:04:46 PM	david	1	457	May 27th by david
	Boundaries... (Preview) Hi y'all... I tried to understand boundaries- which were invisible, and ephemeral... so I focussed on personal space- and was mostly aware of other people's personal space. So then I began to focus on my own. I felt that my true self was emerging from the trauma [stored] and the gloom... and it...	david	0	78	May 27th by david
	Monday morning- and those blimmin steps...!!! (Preview) Hi y'all... those Americans are real fanatics on dem der steps... Not so hot on the traditions, apart for the first one or two... [in my view]. On this board we have the steps, traditions, and the concepts... ...that means do have a structure behind us- and safeguards... for embers... member...	david	0	67	May 26th by david
	Step 12 to Step 0ne... (Preview) Hi y'all... I am an oldie here. It is Sunday morning already, here in NZ... looks like a warm day- coming up. Been in Alanon for 36 years. ACA took a while to start up here- in this country. And the whole nation only has four groups. Part of my dream/goal ... was to learn enough- with this internati...	david	4	94	May 20th by david
	Being emotionally safe... (Preview) Hmmm I think our group here- has naturally adopted these traits...... A good check-list. https://themighty.com/2018/09/what-is-a-safe-person/?utm_source=newsletter_trauma&utm_medium=email&;utm_campaign=newsletter_trauma_2019-04-09&fbclid=IwAR16Y0vj7r...	david	2	136	April 24th by The Poet
	Stuck (Preview) Tired of being depressed.Want to cry but feel stuck in my stomach.Thoughts all over the place.Phoned my son and a couple friends but didn't make me feel any better.Am angry also.was punching my bed.havent accepted my sisters death seem to be on a merry go round.got told don't stay in grief.Well how do...	Neos2	1	157	March 29th by Mrs_Snoopy
	quite new (Preview) hello everyone, I am quite new to this... I actually just discovered this and I find it quite interesting... A little backstory on myself, I grew up with a functioning alcohol as my mother, I struggled quite a bit growing up... she was loving and then quite distant and harsh. She actually ended up in...	Riley87	3	154	March 29th by Neos2
	Aftermath of Sexual Abuse. (Preview) I keep feeling suicidal, rage, and sick to my stomach. I don't know how to cope.	annt	23	247	May 20th by Mrs_Snoopy
	So, do you think this is easy...? (Preview) ...well, yes it is- in the end. The process of letting go- emotionally just seems extremely hard- impossible even. It does not have to be done here. We adult children are just so resilient. We are born survivors. ... So if you are sitting here- and reading this through- I would count you as a survivo...	david	1	172	March 12th by pkc107
	Repeat After Me (Preview) Hi this is my first attempt at a meeting. I've been struggling with co-dependency that I inherited from my mom. My life has become unmanageable. So I'm doing this workbook called "repeat after me". It's a therapy for adult children of alcoholics. It's very difficult so far but also rewarding. I'm hav...	Naturalmama406	3	181	March 19th by mamalioness
	My heroine- gave me a life worth living... (Preview) Hi y'all... not sure if this shows in the USA...!!! Please let me know- if not... ACA helps me through- gets me through- but Janet offered me hope. Right from the beginning.	david	0	153	March 4th by david
	Readings from SMR,,, Feb 23 and 24... (Preview) Hi y'all... It is the 24th here already- Sunday morning... do I want to indulge myself by mentioning this first... ...as I write I have to search for a word- like indulge... and more and more often i find it. A clarity- which once eluded me. The phrase was "suffer in silence". This really underlines the d...	david	0	156	February 23rd by david
	Promise 2. SMR, 15th Feb... (Preview) Promise 2: Our self esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basis. It is a small miracle, for me, to write out this quote. In times past this phrase would have just gone on one ear- and out the other. Forgotten forever. Inn the BRB there is an exercise on page 444- which is mirror wor...	david	3	208	Feb 15, 2019 by david
	Is abuse common for ACOAs? (Preview) My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?	annt	5	214	Feb 15, 2019 by david
	Step one (Preview) I need a reminder that my life has become un manageable.today is rough.Got up feeling exhausted got up ate a green smoothie.Went back to bed just rested.the mind doing what it'll do.Watch my mom and family do the do do do thing.dont have to be like my family.Sister came over and for the first time stayed...	Neos2	1	188	Feb 5, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Step One. (Preview) Step One. Admitted that I was powerless and that my life had become unmanageable. There are different versions and variants for the steps. Especially for adult children. I might argue that my life was always unmanageable. And in Step Two my higher power cannot restore me to sanity- because there...	david	1	245	Feb 6, 2019 by david
	Newcomers (Preview) Hello, My name is Hannah from Australia. I am a member of AA and I am interested in ACA. My sister is very interested in joining ACA. I am going to pass this site to her today. She wants to find a female sponsor to take her through the steps. If anyone has availability and/or suggestions this would be great...	HM	11	321	July 8th by Mrs_Snoopy
	First Baby Steps! (Preview) Hi! Have just joined and finding it all rather overwhelming! Is there an 'ACA 12 Steps for Dummies' post I can read please?! I've just read the sticky post about the steps, what they are. I've read about the laundry list, about the promises, and the reparenting steps. I've read a few posts with peop...	LoveYourLife	4	232	Jan 15, 2019 by conquering shame
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