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Alcoholic parents enabling alcoholic adult children

Hi there - I'm new to this forum and the al-anon community. My parents and 2 of my siblings are alcoholics. My sister has been in recovery for about 3 years now, and my brother just recently admitted he's an alcoholic. There's so much I could go into here, but I could really use some advice on how my parents interact with my siblings. I learned yesterday that my sister relapsed recently, and she did it with my parents. I'm so furious that they repeatedly choose alcohol over supporting her and her sobriety. I'm worried about my sister, and her daughter, who would wind up in the custody of her emotionally abusive father if my sister winds up in rehab again. 

I'm also worried about my brother, and his new and fragile sobriety. My parents will thankfully be out of state and away from my brother for the next few months, but in a few months they'll be back, and likely drinking in front of him.

Should I confront my parents about this? I think they're in denial about so much - in particular their alcoholism and my siblings'. How do I help my siblings in this situation?



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Welcome to MIP, Carrie! 

I'm glad that you found us!!

One thing we learn in ACA is that there is only one person we can change.  They are looking at us in the mirror!

Here is the ACA Serenity Prayer:

Higher Power, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change
the courage to change the one I can
and the wisdom to know that one is me.

How is their alcoholism effecting you?

Are you able to set boundaries to preserve your own sanity?

Trying to rescue our family will only lead to frustration and failure.


P.S.: This newcomer page is viewable by anyone on the Internet.  Just say the word and mamalioness or I can move it to the secure Main Page for you.



In Recovery,

Princess K.


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Thank you, Princess K. I'm fine with this post staying public - thank you for your kind words.

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