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SELF CARE_LOVING YOURSELF


Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing:

 

1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.

2. Fearing change. Know that life is rocky and things will happen that you don't like. See, if things didn't happen, life would be dull and boring. So it is good that things do change, for the better. Challenge yourself even through the hard times. Know that life will not fail you, unless you give up on life.

3. Living in the past. Learn to accept things that weren't good for you.

4. Putting yourself down. Look at yourself in the mirror each day and tell yourself all the pretty things you love about yourself.

5. Overthinking. Stop thinking too much. Distract yourself by doing things you like. Communicate with people and make friends. Meditate to reduce anxiety and depression that is caused by overthinking. Sometimes you will overthink, and that is ok. Just try to limit yourself from thinking too much.

 

Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place. 

Here are twelve inspirational steps to practice self-care:

1.   Perfection is overrated.  Being different in "in".

2.   Try to never speak badly about yourself.  Instead, try to adjust your mind to see and speak of the good within you.

3.   Don't be afraid to say 'no'.

4.   Don't be afraid to say 'yes'.  Especially, when it comes to exciting new adventures.

5.   Kindness goes a long way for yourself and others.

6.   Let go of what you can't control.  Learn to accept things for what they are, even if it is hard.

7.   Stay away from drama and most importantly negativity.

8.   Trust your instincts and intuition.

9.   Let yourself feel.

10. Never give up on yourself and your DREAMS.

11.  Stay true to yourself.

 

12.  Love everything and everyone.



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Awesome! I'm going to need to work on that "overthinking" thing... ; )


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I really like suggestion 8: Trust your instincts and your intuition. Thank you for posting this!

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AprilDenean wrote:

Awesome! I'm going to need to work on that "overthinking" thing... ; )


 oh yea, part of my inability to slow down and "chill" is the racing mind....I just hate it



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I am new, but let-me just say, this is the first post I read. What an impact this first post is on my life! Wow! Thank you!

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Welcome, Kandy!

Pull up a chair and join our experience, strength, and hope!!

There are many more shares on the Main Page....



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hey Kandy, welcome and i'm so glad you liked my post....yea, it looks easy, but it takes WORK and we CAN overcome, we CAN get better, the bottom line is to love and care for ourselves THEN share that healthy self love with others...

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Thank you! The drama thing is tough, I dont realize it before its too late. Grateful for this list, writing it down now

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Welcome to the family, Kiki!! 

In my experience, recovery teaches us to recognize the drama.  Then we learn not to participate in it....



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Welcome Kiki!

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I love these lists and they make total sense. I'm going to copy them down and look at them often. Making the changes in your life are difficult but so so worth it. I like to believe you are a new person afterwards you have a new outlook on everything not so stressed out and happy we all deserve to reach happy...

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Need to work in saying no, saying yes, letting go of control, and letting myself feel. Letting myself feel may be my biggest issue

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Thanks for sharing, Irishgirl and savannah!



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Thanks everybody for the great shares and welcome to the newcomers

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Wonderful post, thank you for sharing.

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Thank you for this list. I'm a newcomer and all of it is relevant to me - especially the people pleasing and overthinking. I'm learning mindfulness to help with that. It's hard but necessary for my peace of mind.



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Welcome to MIP, Lost!! 



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BIG WELCOME, Lost!!!!

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Hi. This is my first time on here. My therapist recommend I join a group as I am an adult (42) of an alcoholic parent. I am not really sure where to start with this so any guidance is greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Welcome to MIP, Sunshine!! 

It can be overwhelming at first.

The good stuff is on our Main Page (see link in upper left); I'd suggest looking around until you feel comfortable sharing.

Pull up a chair and join our experience, strength, and hope! 



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