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mamalioness · mamalioness

Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing: 1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.2. Fearing change. Know that life is ro...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Effects, Defenses and Recovery from AbuseNotes on Abuse Effects of Abuse1. Low or no self-esteem 2. Often feels responsible and blames self 3. Inability to trust self and others (may trust, but trusts wrong people) 4. Sense of worthlessness 5. Isolation 6. Sense of being helpless 7. Strong denial...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Common signs that you may be a codependent abuser: · Constantly seek approval and affirmation from your mate, having no sense of self identity outside a relationship · Inability to feel comfortable when alone · Feelings of being different or not like others · Confusion, or a deep sense of inade...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Adult Child Characteristics1. Adult children guess at what normal is.There is no frame of reference for what it is like to be in a normal household. You also have no frame of reference for what is O.K. to say and feel. In a more typical situation, one does not have to walk on eggs all the time. Because you d...

mamalioness · mamalioness

By Patricia OGorman Ph.D., and Phil Diaz, M.S.W.Step 1Admitted our powerlessness to change our past that our lives had become unmanageable and became willing to surrender to our love and not to our fear.Step 2Find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through faith and an acceptance of the f...

mamalioness · mamalioness

We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God.M...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When I came here 14 years ago, broken, disillusioned, no hope left, I was literally a mess... A friend of mine (when I was about to try again to commit suicide) told me "give ACA 12 steps 30 days...30 days is all I ask, and if it does not help you BE better, THINK better, FEEL better, I won't try and stop you f...

Mrs_Snoopy · Mrs_Snoopy

Tony A., the founder of Adult Children of Alcoholics, wrote The Laundry List in 1978. This defines the nature of our ACoA issues; our major problems and common behavior patterns. If you identify with a majority of these issues, this is the place for you! (Excerpted from The Laundry List: The ACoA E...

Mrs_Snoopy · Mrs_Snoopy

Welcome to Adult Children Anonymous, a forum on the Miracles In Progress site! We were founded in 2004 by John F., who passed away in 2017. An intergroup Transition Committee then formed to handle the bills and business affairs as needed. All trusted servants are volunteers. We roughly follow th...

tasha · tasha

Please feel free to share an intro, your story or anything else that will allow us to get to know you here. Welcome to the family.

To view the most recent post, click the largest blue number next to the thread heading, or while in the thread, at the bottom of the screen where it says 'pages' and use...

Chi_Aca_ADHD · Chi_Aca_ADHD

Hi guys, So I am amazed at how much the ACA traits, stories i've been reading/hearing resonates with me. After 9 days of listening, I started going over the Yellow workbook. It recommends finding a sponsor. I believe that an ACA sponsor with ADHD whose first 12-step was ACA would be best suited to un...

RiverM · RiverM

hello... my name is river. i hit bottom in 2017 after being hospitalized right after my high school graduation for suicidal thoughts. a few months later, i found ACA. i've been attending meetings on/off since then (consistency was a bit difficult the last two years due to moving twice, but i'm now att...

Cicada_Shell · Cicada_Shell

Hi Everyone. Ive come here at the advice of my therapist, although Im not sure exactly what to do with myself. Ive only recently started in on this journey, so I havent quite gotten a plan yet. I really just want to heal, whatever that means. So, to start, I am the daughter of two alcoholics (my mom also da...

alexa · alexa

Hi everyone, I'm new to the group and sort of stumbled upon it by accident. I suffer from a lot of mental health problems, and I believe that my experiences as a child growing up with an alcoholic parent has contributed to a lot of my mental health problems now and unhealthy thinking patterns. I wanted t...

DisneyRPGWarrior · DisneyRPGWarrior

Hello everyone =) I am 30 years old, currently in therapy due to my "ACoA Trauma syndrome". I never realized I was experiencing this until my husband suggested I go into therapy. So, Ill tell you a little bit about me...here goes: My father is an alcoholic who through my life went through the motions o...

ZenDancer · ZenDancer

Hello friends! My name is Lucas - I'm new to the forum. I've been in recovery (AA and DA) for some years now, but only recently have come to see just how much of an ACA I am... 'Approval addiction' and fear of disapproval and abandonment have always been huge issues in my life.. in many ways they are like cor...

Rachelf075 · Rachelf075

Hi, Im a single mom and an only child of an alcoholic mother. From a young age, I always felt like I was outside looking in. I?ve been terrified of ending up alone because for many reasons. One is that I know when my parents die, it?ll just be me. And I wanted to start my own family so I could belong somewhere....

Chaosmagika · Chaosmagika

Dear fellow souls I am completely new to this and find myself against the ropes so to speak, I was put onto ACA through a wise friend further down the path than myself, Im just looking for advice on finding an online support groups to start my healing and recovery, knowing and admitting I have lost all con...

T3 · T3

Hello folks, So for a start, I'm a 21 year old Adult child of an alcoholic that recently just realized I needed to stop putting off what trauma I went through and actually take initiative to reach out and heal. That leads me here, unsure where to start. Recently I picked up the Big Red Book and also read Jan...

Irishgirl · Irishgirl

I just wanted to bring this up because its been critical to my healing process. I've been through so many things in my life it honestly was a life saver. I write in it almost every night but what is amazing (I've been doing it for years) when I look back its amazing the growth I made and all the evolving I've d...

Lisa Connely · Lisa Connely

Hello, I am new, lost and dizzy. Looking for a sponsor. I do not know anything and I've got information overflow now. Like this is all I needed .. I do not know what a sponsor should do for me but I hope he/she can do only good things. Thanks, Lisa

Irishgirl · Irishgirl

I'm brand new here and was directed her by my thearpist. I'm the Adult daughter of an alcoholic father and perscription addict mother. I don't know if anyone else has this issue but I'm having a very difficult issue with friendships they we're all alcoholic's and relationships the guys we're either a...

Puzzler88 · Puzzler88

Hi everyone, Thank you for being here. I am 32, married for almost 6 years, a 1.5 yr old ray of sunshine and have 4 pets. I truly have a lot to be thankful for. I was able to cut my alcoholic and drama king father out of my life when I was 3 months pregnant. This was tough on my mother who unfortunately still live...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BIG WELCOME to all of you newcomers...SO glad to see you joining us I just wanted to say that when you make your profiles out, some use the first and last name...OVER 4,000 People can see that...So suggestion is to use first name and maybe last initial or no initial...Date of birth is risky as well..... W...

New member · NeverHeard88

I wanna let go of the pain and move forward so I can love fully and not fearful or resisting How??

Kate1123 · Kate1123

What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?

Kristin71 · Kristin71

Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time

LU · LU

Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...

phoenix · phoenix

Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...

ChrisJH · ChrisJH

Hi all, I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	STICKY: SELF CARE_LOVING YOURSELF (Preview) Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing: 1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.2. Fearing change. Know that life is ro...	mamalioness	20	1387	10 days ago by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: Effects, Defenses and Recovery from Abuse (Preview) Effects, Defenses and Recovery from AbuseNotes on Abuse Effects of Abuse1. Low or no self-esteem 2. Often feels responsible and blames self 3. Inability to trust self and others (may trust, but trusts wrong people) 4. Sense of worthlessness 5. Isolation 6. Sense of being helpless 7. Strong denial...	mamalioness	5	1438	July 3rd by AmyM
	STICKY: MORE characteristics of Adult children and/or CoDa (Preview) Common signs that you may be a codependent abuser: · Constantly seek approval and affirmation from your mate, having no sense of self identity outside a relationship · Inability to feel comfortable when alone · Feelings of being different or not like others · Confusion, or a deep sense of inade...	mamalioness	1	1551	Nov 29, 2018 by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: Adult Child Characteristics (Preview) Adult Child Characteristics1. Adult children guess at what normal is.There is no frame of reference for what it is like to be in a normal household. You also have no frame of reference for what is O.K. to say and feel. In a more typical situation, one does not have to walk on eggs all the time. Because you d...	mamalioness	18	1334	May 10th by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: the 12 steps to reparenting and reclaiming ourselves & other wisdoms (Preview) By Patricia OGorman Ph.D., and Phil Diaz, M.S.W.Step 1Admitted our powerlessness to change our past that our lives had become unmanageable and became willing to surrender to our love and not to our fear.Step 2Find hope in the belief that recovery is possible through faith and an acceptance of the f...	mamalioness	7	1249	Feb 20, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: 12 steps for adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families (Preview) We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God.M...	mamalioness	12	1276	May 16th by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: Welcome to the ACA program. My story!! (Preview) When I came here 14 years ago, broken, disillusioned, no hope left, I was literally a mess... A friend of mine (when I was about to try again to commit suicide) told me "give ACA 12 steps 30 days...30 days is all I ask, and if it does not help you BE better, THINK better, FEEL better, I won't try and stop you f...	mamalioness	12	2469	Apr 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	STICKY: The Laundry List (Preview) Tony A., the founder of Adult Children of Alcoholics, wrote The Laundry List in 1978. This defines the nature of our ACoA issues; our major problems and common behavior patterns. If you identify with a majority of these issues, this is the place for you! (Excerpted from The Laundry List: The ACoA E...	Mrs_Snoopy	6	1744	Sep 9, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: Welcome, Newcomers! (Preview) Welcome to Adult Children Anonymous, a forum on the Miracles In Progress site! We were founded in 2004 by John F., who passed away in 2017. An intergroup Transition Committee then formed to handle the bills and business affairs as needed. All trusted servants are volunteers. We roughly follow th...	Mrs_Snoopy	9	1319	June 13th by Mrs_Snoopy
	STICKY: Share your story here. ( 1 2 3 4 5 … 8 ) (Preview) Please feel free to share an intro, your story or anything else that will allow us to get to know you here. Welcome to the family. To view the most recent post, click the largest blue number next to the thread heading, or while in the thread, at the bottom of the screen where it says 'pages' and use...	tasha	471	77639	September 4th by Mrs_Snoopy
	Yellow book sponsor (w' ADHD)? ADHD ACA Sponsor (Preview) Hi guys, So I am amazed at how much the ACA traits, stories i've been reading/hearing resonates with me. After 9 days of listening, I started going over the Yellow workbook. It recommends finding a sponsor. I believe that an ACA sponsor with ADHD whose first 12-step was ACA would be best suited to un...	Chi_Aca_ADHD	4	44	8 days ago by Mrs_Snoopy
	new to the forum but not to the program :-) (Preview) hello... my name is river. i hit bottom in 2017 after being hospitalized right after my high school graduation for suicidal thoughts. a few months later, i found ACA. i've been attending meetings on/off since then (consistency was a bit difficult the last two years due to moving twice, but i'm now att...	RiverM	3	61	August 23rd by Orange
	New Traveler on this Journey (Preview) Hi Everyone. Ive come here at the advice of my therapist, although Im not sure exactly what to do with myself. Ive only recently started in on this journey, so I havent quite gotten a plan yet. I really just want to heal, whatever that means. So, to start, I am the daughter of two alcoholics (my mom also da...	Cicada_Shell	4	59	August 23rd by Orange
	New and Looking for Resources (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the group and sort of stumbled upon it by accident. I suffer from a lot of mental health problems, and I believe that my experiences as a child growing up with an alcoholic parent has contributed to a lot of my mental health problems now and unhealthy thinking patterns. I wanted t...	alexa	3	64	August 23rd by Orange
	New Comer - Adult Child of an Alcoholic (Preview) Hello everyone =) I am 30 years old, currently in therapy due to my "ACoA Trauma syndrome". I never realized I was experiencing this until my husband suggested I go into therapy. So, Ill tell you a little bit about me...here goes: My father is an alcoholic who through my life went through the motions o...	DisneyRPGWarrior	8	83	August 23rd by Orange
	hello fellow travellers :) (Preview) Hello friends! My name is Lucas - I'm new to the forum. I've been in recovery (AA and DA) for some years now, but only recently have come to see just how much of an ACA I am... 'Approval addiction' and fear of disapproval and abandonment have always been huge issues in my life.. in many ways they are like cor...	ZenDancer	4	82	July 28th by Orange
	Lonely / single mom and only child (Preview) Hi, Im a single mom and an only child of an alcoholic mother. From a young age, I always felt like I was outside looking in. I?ve been terrified of ending up alone because for many reasons. One is that I know when my parents die, it?ll just be me. And I wanted to start my own family so I could belong somewhere....	Rachelf075	1	91	July 5th by Mrs_Snoopy
	Complete beginner looking for a online group (Preview) Dear fellow souls I am completely new to this and find myself against the ropes so to speak, I was put onto ACA through a wise friend further down the path than myself, Im just looking for advice on finding an online support groups to start my healing and recovery, knowing and admitting I have lost all con...	Chaosmagika	8	128	June 29th by Mrs_Snoopy
	I'm a Newcomer and I have no idea what I'm Doing (Preview) Hello folks, So for a start, I'm a 21 year old Adult child of an alcoholic that recently just realized I needed to stop putting off what trauma I went through and actually take initiative to reach out and heal. That leads me here, unsure where to start. Recently I picked up the Big Red Book and also read Jan...	T3	3	127	June 21st by soob63
	Daily Journaling (Preview) I just wanted to bring this up because its been critical to my healing process. I've been through so many things in my life it honestly was a life saver. I write in it almost every night but what is amazing (I've been doing it for years) when I look back its amazing the growth I made and all the evolving I've d...	Irishgirl	3	111	June 13th by Orange
	Looking for a sponsor!!! (Preview) Hello, I am new, lost and dizzy. Looking for a sponsor. I do not know anything and I've got information overflow now. Like this is all I needed .. I do not know what a sponsor should do for me but I hope he/she can do only good things. Thanks, Lisa	Lisa Connely	3	134	May 30th by AprilDenean
	Friendships/Relationships (Preview) I'm brand new here and was directed her by my thearpist. I'm the Adult daughter of an alcoholic father and perscription addict mother. I don't know if anyone else has this issue but I'm having a very difficult issue with friendships they we're all alcoholic's and relationships the guys we're either a...	Irishgirl	6	139	June 5th by Irishgirl
	New and Need Guidance (Preview) Hi everyone, Thank you for being here. I am 32, married for almost 6 years, a 1.5 yr old ray of sunshine and have 4 pets. I truly have a lot to be thankful for. I was able to cut my alcoholic and drama king father out of my life when I was 3 months pregnant. This was tough on my mother who unfortunately still live...	Puzzler88	8	158	May 28th by RubySlippers
	PROTECT YOUR ANONYMITY (Preview) BIG WELCOME to all of you newcomers...SO glad to see you joining us I just wanted to say that when you make your profiles out, some use the first and last name...OVER 4,000 People can see that...So suggestion is to use first name and maybe last initial or no initial...Date of birth is risky as well..... W...	mamalioness	4	284	June 17th by mamalioness
	New member (Preview) I wanna let go of the pain and move forward so I can love fully and not fearful or resisting How??	NeverHeard88	8	603	May 29th by mamalioness
	Step one (Preview) What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?	Kate1123	3	242	Mar 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Quick hellowhen I have (Preview) Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time	Kristin71	5	563	Mar 20, 2020 by Orange
	Tired but THANKFUL (Preview) Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...	LU	2	261	Feb 23, 2020 by AprilDenean
	Hello - My first post health problems new exhausted trauma grief (Preview) Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...	phoenix	11	473	Mar 20, 2020 by Orange
	Where do I start? (Preview) Hi all, I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?	ChrisJH	6	598	April 4th by Mrs_Snoopy
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