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ChrisJH · ChrisJH

Hi all, I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?

Kate1123 · Kate1123

What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?

phoenix · phoenix

Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...

Kristin71 · Kristin71

Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time

LU · LU

Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...

Gbsb31 · Gbsb31

Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired o...

flagship2020 · flagship2020

My path to recovery has had lots of sharp turns. I started attending Al-Anon meeting in June 2019, but after about 3 months I felt I was in the wrong place and started attending AA meetings. I got a sponsor and started working the steps, but again I still get the feeling like I dont belong and I dont feel lik...

SongWoman · SongWoman

Hi, I commented on a post yesterday with a very short intro. I was made aware of ACA by my therapist back in about 1988. When I sat in that first meeting and recognized myself in most of the characteristics of adult children, I knew I belonged, except that I couldn't reconcile the fact there was no alcoh...

Neos2 · Neos2

Tired of being depressed.Want to cry but feel stuck in my stomach.Thoughts all over the place.Phoned my son and a couple friends but didn't make me feel any better.Am angry also.was punching my bed.havent accepted my sisters death seem to be on a merry go round.got told don't stay in grief.Well how do...

forgrace · forgrace

Hello all, I have recently rediscovered ACOA after talking to my mom about Al-anon and I would just appreciate some guidance from those who have been working on this for a while. I just turned 20 yesterday and I have been trying to navigate my relationship with my alcoholic father for the past 4 years. W...

annt · annt

My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?

david · david

Hi y'all... I am an oldie here. It is Sunday morning already, here in NZ... looks like a warm day- coming up. Been in Alanon for 36 years. ACA took a while to start up here- in this country. And the whole nation only has four groups. Part of my dream/goal ... was to learn enough- with this internati...

Naturalmama406 · Naturalmama406

Hi this is my first attempt at a meeting. I've been struggling with co-dependency that I inherited from my mom. My life has become unmanageable. So I'm doing this workbook called "repeat after me". It's a therapy for adult children of alcoholics. It's very difficult so far but also rewarding. I'm hav...

HM · HM

Hello, My name is Hannah from Australia. I am a member of AA and I am interested in ACA. My sister is very interested in joining ACA. I am going to pass this site to her today. She wants to find a female sponsor to take her through the steps. If anyone has availability and/or suggestions this would be great...

shiloh · shiloh

I feel as though I have had an insight this morning. I have been struggling with scary thoughts, sadness and anxiety,at a time in my life that is supposed to be so peaceful and full of joy. I have a beautiful life, fabulous husband, I live in a gorgeous part of the country I am sober nearly 40 years, I am hea...

david · david

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxnx72ouewA&t=64s

david · david

[https://adultchildren.org/meditation/] -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:06:27 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:07:07 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:04:46 PM

david · david

Hi y'all... I tried to understand boundaries- which were invisible, and ephemeral... so I focussed on personal space- and was mostly aware of other people's personal space. So then I began to focus on my own. I felt that my true self was emerging from the trauma [stored] and the gloom... and it...

david · david

Hi y'all... those Americans are real fanatics on dem der steps... Not so hot on the traditions, apart for the first one or two... [in my view]. On this board we have the steps, traditions, and the concepts... ...that means do have a structure behind us- and safeguards... for embers... member...

annt · annt

I keep feeling suicidal, rage, and sick to my stomach. I don't know how to cope.

mamalioness · mamalioness

Dear Fellow travelers... I hope you are enjoying the great readings and posts we are sharing with you. Help is HERE!! We CAN change for the better..We CAN go from survivor to Thriver...WE CAN!!! I came from the most wicked kind of abuse by a PARENT!!! One who was supposed to love/cherish/nurture/pro...

david · david

https://themighty.com/2018/09/what-is-a-safe-person/?utm_source=newsletter_trauma&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=newsletter_trauma_2019-04-09&fbclid=IwAR16Y0vj7r...

Riley87 · Riley87

hello everyone, I am quite new to this... I actually just discovered this and I find it quite interesting... A little backstory on myself, I grew up with a functioning alcohol as my mother, I struggled quite a bit growing up... she was loving and then quite distant and harsh. She actually ended up in...

david · david

...well, yes it is- in the end. The process of letting go- emotionally just seems extremely hard- impossible even. It does not have to be done here. We adult children are just so resilient. We are born survivors. ... So if you are sitting here- and reading this through- I would count you as a survivo...

david · david

Hi y'all... not sure if this shows in the USA...!!! Please let me know- if not... ACA helps me through- gets me through- but Janet offered me hope. Right from the beginning.

david · david

Hi y'all... It is the 24th here already- Sunday morning... do I want to indulge myself by mentioning this first... ...as I write I have to search for a word- like indulge... and more and more often i find it. A clarity- which once eluded me. The phrase was "suffer in silence". This really underlines the d...

david · david

Promise 2: Our self esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basis. It is a small miracle, for me, to write out this quote. In times past this phrase would have just gone on one ear- and out the other. Forgotten forever. Inn the BRB there is an exercise on page 444- which is mirror wor...

david · david

Step One. Admitted that I was powerless and that my life had become unmanageable. There are different versions and variants for the steps. Especially for adult children. I might argue that my life was always unmanageable. And in Step Two my higher power cannot restore me to sanity- because there...

Neos2 · Neos2

I need a reminder that my life has become un manageable.today is rough.Got up feeling exhausted got up ate a green smoothie.Went back to bed just rested.the mind doing what it'll do.Watch my mom and family do the do do do thing.dont have to be like my family.Sister came over and for the first time stayed...

LoveYourLife · LoveYourLife

Hi! Have just joined and finding it all rather overwhelming! Is there an 'ACA 12 Steps for Dummies' post I can read please?! I've just read the sticky post about the steps, what they are. I've read about the laundry list, about the promises, and the reparenting steps. I've read a few posts with peop...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Where do I start? (Preview) Hi all, I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?	ChrisJH	6	1868	Apr 4, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Step one (Preview) What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?	Kate1123	3	2347	Mar 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hello - My first post health problems new exhausted trauma grief (Preview) Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...	phoenix	11	1253	Mar 20, 2020 by Orange
	Quick hellowhen I have (Preview) Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time	Kristin71	5	1825	Mar 20, 2020 by Orange
	Tired but THANKFUL (Preview) Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...	LU	2	1746	Feb 23, 2020 by AprilDenean
	Where do I start? (Preview) Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired o...	Gbsb31	8	2578	Feb 4, 2020 by mamalioness
	Ready and willing for change (Preview) My path to recovery has had lots of sharp turns. I started attending Al-Anon meeting in June 2019, but after about 3 months I felt I was in the wrong place and started attending AA meetings. I got a sponsor and started working the steps, but again I still get the feeling like I dont belong and I dont feel lik...	flagship2020	6	698	Jan 31, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Introduction (Preview) Hi, I commented on a post yesterday with a very short intro. I was made aware of ACA by my therapist back in about 1988. When I sat in that first meeting and recognized myself in most of the characteristics of adult children, I knew I belonged, except that I couldn't reconcile the fact there was no alcoh...	SongWoman	3	582	Jan 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	Stuck (Preview) Tired of being depressed.Want to cry but feel stuck in my stomach.Thoughts all over the place.Phoned my son and a couple friends but didn't make me feel any better.Am angry also.was punching my bed.havent accepted my sisters death seem to be on a merry go round.got told don't stay in grief.Well how do...	Neos2	4	1476	Dec 27, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	new and lost (Preview) Hello all, I have recently rediscovered ACOA after talking to my mom about Al-anon and I would just appreciate some guidance from those who have been working on this for a while. I just turned 20 yesterday and I have been trying to navigate my relationship with my alcoholic father for the past 4 years. W...	forgrace	7	1755	Dec 26, 2019 by mamalioness
	Is abuse common for ACOAs? (Preview) My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?	annt	9	2798	Dec 17, 2019 by mamalioness
	Step 12 to Step 0ne... (Preview) Hi y'all... I am an oldie here. It is Sunday morning already, here in NZ... looks like a warm day- coming up. Been in Alanon for 36 years. ACA took a while to start up here- in this country. And the whole nation only has four groups. Part of my dream/goal ... was to learn enough- with this internati...	david	8	1925	Nov 17, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Repeat After Me (Preview) Hi this is my first attempt at a meeting. I've been struggling with co-dependency that I inherited from my mom. My life has become unmanageable. So I'm doing this workbook called "repeat after me". It's a therapy for adult children of alcoholics. It's very difficult so far but also rewarding. I'm hav...	Naturalmama406	5	3214	Nov 14, 2019 by AprilDenean
	Newcomers (Preview) Hello, My name is Hannah from Australia. I am a member of AA and I am interested in ACA. My sister is very interested in joining ACA. I am going to pass this site to her today. She wants to find a female sponsor to take her through the steps. If anyone has availability and/or suggestions this would be great...	HM	23	5451	Nov 11, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	allowing happiness (Preview) I feel as though I have had an insight this morning. I have been struggling with scary thoughts, sadness and anxiety,at a time in my life that is supposed to be so peaceful and full of joy. I have a beautiful life, fabulous husband, I live in a gorgeous part of the country I am sober nearly 40 years, I am hea...	shiloh	4	2707	Sep 7, 2019 by david
	A link I found helpful, this morning... (Preview) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxnx72ouewA&t=64s	david	0	2957	May 28, 2019 by david
	Today's reading from SMR... (Preview) [https://adultchildren.org/meditation/] -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:06:27 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:07:07 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:04:46 PM	david	1	3673	May 27, 2019 by david
	Boundaries... (Preview) Hi y'all... I tried to understand boundaries- which were invisible, and ephemeral... so I focussed on personal space- and was mostly aware of other people's personal space. So then I began to focus on my own. I felt that my true self was emerging from the trauma [stored] and the gloom... and it...	david	0	3803	May 27, 2019 by david
	Monday morning- and those blimmin steps...!!! (Preview) Hi y'all... those Americans are real fanatics on dem der steps... Not so hot on the traditions, apart for the first one or two... [in my view]. On this board we have the steps, traditions, and the concepts... ...that means do have a structure behind us- and safeguards... for embers... member...	david	0	3628	May 26, 2019 by david
	Aftermath of Sexual Abuse. (Preview) I keep feeling suicidal, rage, and sick to my stomach. I don't know how to cope.	annt	23	5771	May 20, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Just wanted to stop in and say "HI" to our newbies (Preview) Dear Fellow travelers... I hope you are enjoying the great readings and posts we are sharing with you. Help is HERE!! We CAN change for the better..We CAN go from survivor to Thriver...WE CAN!!! I came from the most wicked kind of abuse by a PARENT!!! One who was supposed to love/cherish/nurture/pro...	mamalioness	4	1295	Apr 25, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Being emotionally safe... (Preview) https://themighty.com/2018/09/what-is-a-safe-person/?utm_source=newsletter_trauma&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=newsletter_trauma_2019-04-09&fbclid=IwAR16Y0vj7r...	david	2	4311	Apr 24, 2019 by The Poet
	quite new (Preview) hello everyone, I am quite new to this... I actually just discovered this and I find it quite interesting... A little backstory on myself, I grew up with a functioning alcohol as my mother, I struggled quite a bit growing up... she was loving and then quite distant and harsh. She actually ended up in...	Riley87	3	3915	Mar 29, 2019 by Neos2
	So, do you think this is easy...? (Preview) ...well, yes it is- in the end. The process of letting go- emotionally just seems extremely hard- impossible even. It does not have to be done here. We adult children are just so resilient. We are born survivors. ... So if you are sitting here- and reading this through- I would count you as a survivo...	david	1	4941	Mar 12, 2019 by pkc107
	My heroine- gave me a life worth living... (Preview) Hi y'all... not sure if this shows in the USA...!!! Please let me know- if not... ACA helps me through- gets me through- but Janet offered me hope. Right from the beginning.	david	0	2741	Mar 4, 2019 by david
	Readings from SMR,,, Feb 23 and 24... (Preview) Hi y'all... It is the 24th here already- Sunday morning... do I want to indulge myself by mentioning this first... ...as I write I have to search for a word- like indulge... and more and more often i find it. A clarity- which once eluded me. The phrase was "suffer in silence". This really underlines the d...	david	0	3113	Feb 23, 2019 by david
	Promise 2. SMR, 15th Feb... (Preview) Promise 2: Our self esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basis. It is a small miracle, for me, to write out this quote. In times past this phrase would have just gone on one ear- and out the other. Forgotten forever. Inn the BRB there is an exercise on page 444- which is mirror wor...	david	3	3668	Feb 15, 2019 by david
	Step One. (Preview) Step One. Admitted that I was powerless and that my life had become unmanageable. There are different versions and variants for the steps. Especially for adult children. I might argue that my life was always unmanageable. And in Step Two my higher power cannot restore me to sanity- because there...	david	1	4896	Feb 6, 2019 by david
	Step one (Preview) I need a reminder that my life has become un manageable.today is rough.Got up feeling exhausted got up ate a green smoothie.Went back to bed just rested.the mind doing what it'll do.Watch my mom and family do the do do do thing.dont have to be like my family.Sister came over and for the first time stayed...	Neos2	1	3106	Feb 5, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	First Baby Steps! (Preview) Hi! Have just joined and finding it all rather overwhelming! Is there an 'ACA 12 Steps for Dummies' post I can read please?! I've just read the sticky post about the steps, what they are. I've read about the laundry list, about the promises, and the reparenting steps. I've read a few posts with peop...	LoveYourLife	4	3087	Jan 15, 2019 by conquering shame
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