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Where do I start?


Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired of trying to fix me on my own. I'm feeling like I'm the one to blame for so much. ..I don't know where to start or even if I'm able to turn things around. .. My brothers and sisters seem normal. .. So what the heck is going on with me? Why can't I get over things and be healthy myself? 



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Thanks for sharing, Gbsb, and welcome to MIP! 

It will take a while to unravel all of that.  We're here to walk with you on the journey!!



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Welcome!  Been there.. and there is definitely great hope !  and recovery is not only available but absolutely possible!!  I hope you stick around and let us join you in your journey.  



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Hi! I just wanted to say that I made more progress in my recovery when I finally started working with a sponsor within the program. Of course, that held its own challenges too since I believed at the time that I had to make a good choice and choose the perfect person. LOL! Can you imagine? Trying to pick a perfect person who is also in recovery... Im able to chuckle about it now

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Thanks all. I went to my first meeting tonight... I'll do one day at a time

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Jinx wrote:

Hi! I just wanted to say that I made more progress in my recovery when I finally started working with a sponsor within the program. Of course, that held its own challenges too since I believed at the time that I had to make a good choice and choose the perfect person. LOL! Can you imagine? Trying to pick a perfect person who is also in recovery... Im able to chuckle about it now


 Welcome to MIP, Jinx! 

When you find a perfect person, let me know!!



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Gbsb31 wrote:

Thanks all. I went to my first meeting tonight... I'll do one day at a time


 Awesome, Gbsb!! 



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Welcome! I relate a lot to the feelings you described. One day at a time is great way to recover!

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Gbsb31 wrote:

Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired of trying to fix me on my own. I'm feeling like I'm the one to blame for so much. ..I don't know where to start or even if I'm able to turn things around. .. My brothers and sisters seem normal. .. So what the heck is going on with me? Why can't I get over things and be healthy myself? 


 Hi Gbsb31   Very interesting post...for me it was clear!! Severe adn sustained child abuse, but for a lot of people it is subtle,  this is why the steps are so important...when you get to step 4, the "get to know you" step, you begin to sort stuff out....also inner child work...you find out stuff that happened that should not have, or stuff that didn't happen that should have had and you go from there....Welcome to MIP...this is the most loving/accepting community I ever saw in my life



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