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Post Info TOPIC: Is abuse common for ACOAs?


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Is abuse common for ACOAs?


My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?

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 Awful boundaries, and breaches of trust affect us really, really bad. it was not our fault- not our doing... ...finding release from this may seem impossible.

 I suffered from gross neglect- where my family was expected to guide and protect me. A betrayal of me, as a child and a person. cry ...



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Yes, unfortunately, abuse is common.  We come from sick families; some more than others.

There are mentally ill people with no remorse for their actions.

Please join us and help to heal!



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I told my parents what happened. My Mom says I am lying. I think maybe she doesn't want to accept it. My Dad gave my brother $500 right after I told him. The heart breaking reality is it destroyed my marriage. I loved my husband and I can never get him back. I loved him with all my heart.

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Thanks for sharing.

That is pretty sick behavior.



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 Yes, abuse and neglect destroys our ability to feel. And it make relationships impossible, friendships difficult, indeed. Because we have been robbed of our ability to trust. blankstare ....



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I was molested by a neighbor repeatedly when I was 5 and 6 years old and raised in an abusive alcoholic environment. It takes so long to finally realize how much these things affect us. I married an abusive husband and am just now really (about a year in) entering recovery although I have had lots of therapy and been in another 12 step program. Make yourself and your healing a priority, you are worth it. You are in the right place.



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Thanks for sharing.

That is really horrible, what happened to you.



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HI emiva. Great advice! It takes great courage :) and worth every single step!

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My sperm donor was my offender, my entire teenage years were spent gratifying his degenerate needs. He didnt succeed in raping me but I had to gratify him with very sickening foreplay that really screwed me up for healthy relationships in that I just cannot stand for most men to be affectionate with me because if they say something wrong or they act lecherous or anything, I get triggered and I have to get the hell away from them. Being abused by someone in a situation of trust is the deepest and darkest Betrayal that one can do to another

I am damaged perhaps for life but there is good news in that years of recovery and being loved and being believed and being validated, I am beginning to love myself and treat myself better. You can do it too. It takes a lot of work to unlearn the horrible dark things that we were subjected to when we were younger and helpless and powerless, it is trauma of the worst kind. I am glad you found us

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Keep it simple__Easy does it__Keeping the focus on me--AND___"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart" ~ Unknown

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