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Mrs_Snoopy · Mrs_Snoopy

As Co-Moderators, mamalioness and I are trying to re-energize this site and attract new members. We have several outreach initiatives, and would like to know which ones are working. How did you find out about this site? We hope you join our experience, strength, and hope!

In Recovery, Prin...

Irishgirl · Irishgirl

I'm brand new here and was directed her by my thearpist. I'm the Adult daughter of an alcoholic father and perscription addict mother. I don't know if anyone else has this issue but I'm having a very difficult issue with friendships they we're all alcoholic's and relationships the guys we're either a...

Lisa Connely · Lisa Connely

Hello, I am new, lost and dizzy. Looking for a sponsor. I do not know anything and I've got information overflow now. Like this is all I needed .. I do not know what a sponsor should do for me but I hope he/she can do only good things. Thanks, Lisa

New member · NeverHeard88

I wanna let go of the pain and move forward so I can love fully and not fearful or resisting How??

Puzzler88 · Puzzler88

Hi everyone, Thank you for being here. I am 32, married for almost 6 years, a 1.5 yr old ray of sunshine and have 4 pets. I truly have a lot to be thankful for. I was able to cut my alcoholic and drama king father out of my life when I was 3 months pregnant. This was tough on my mother who unfortunately still live...

ChrisJH · ChrisJH

Hi all, I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?

Kate1123 · Kate1123

What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?

phoenix · phoenix

Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...

Kristin71 · Kristin71

Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time

LU · LU

Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...

Gbsb31 · Gbsb31

Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired o...

flagship2020 · flagship2020

My path to recovery has had lots of sharp turns. I started attending Al-Anon meeting in June 2019, but after about 3 months I felt I was in the wrong place and started attending AA meetings. I got a sponsor and started working the steps, but again I still get the feeling like I dont belong and I dont feel lik...

SongWoman · SongWoman

Hi, I commented on a post yesterday with a very short intro. I was made aware of ACA by my therapist back in about 1988. When I sat in that first meeting and recognized myself in most of the characteristics of adult children, I knew I belonged, except that I couldn't reconcile the fact there was no alcoh...

Neos2 · Neos2

Tired of being depressed.Want to cry but feel stuck in my stomach.Thoughts all over the place.Phoned my son and a couple friends but didn't make me feel any better.Am angry also.was punching my bed.havent accepted my sisters death seem to be on a merry go round.got told don't stay in grief.Well how do...

forgrace · forgrace

Hello all, I have recently rediscovered ACOA after talking to my mom about Al-anon and I would just appreciate some guidance from those who have been working on this for a while. I just turned 20 yesterday and I have been trying to navigate my relationship with my alcoholic father for the past 4 years. W...

annt · annt

My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?

david · david

Hi y'all... I am an oldie here. It is Sunday morning already, here in NZ... looks like a warm day- coming up. Been in Alanon for 36 years. ACA took a while to start up here- in this country. And the whole nation only has four groups. Part of my dream/goal ... was to learn enough- with this internati...

Naturalmama406 · Naturalmama406

Hi this is my first attempt at a meeting. I've been struggling with co-dependency that I inherited from my mom. My life has become unmanageable. So I'm doing this workbook called "repeat after me". It's a therapy for adult children of alcoholics. It's very difficult so far but also rewarding. I'm hav...

HM · HM

Hello, My name is Hannah from Australia. I am a member of AA and I am interested in ACA. My sister is very interested in joining ACA. I am going to pass this site to her today. She wants to find a female sponsor to take her through the steps. If anyone has availability and/or suggestions this would be great...

shiloh · shiloh

I feel as though I have had an insight this morning. I have been struggling with scary thoughts, sadness and anxiety,at a time in my life that is supposed to be so peaceful and full of joy. I have a beautiful life, fabulous husband, I live in a gorgeous part of the country I am sober nearly 40 years, I am hea...

david · david

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxnx72ouewA&t=64s

david · david

[https://adultchildren.org/meditation/] -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:06:27 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:07:07 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:04:46 PM

david · david

Hi y'all... I tried to understand boundaries- which were invisible, and ephemeral... so I focussed on personal space- and was mostly aware of other people's personal space. So then I began to focus on my own. I felt that my true self was emerging from the trauma [stored] and the gloom... and it...

david · david

Hi y'all... those Americans are real fanatics on dem der steps... Not so hot on the traditions, apart for the first one or two... [in my view]. On this board we have the steps, traditions, and the concepts... ...that means do have a structure behind us- and safeguards... for embers... member...

annt · annt

I keep feeling suicidal, rage, and sick to my stomach. I don't know how to cope.

mamalioness · mamalioness

Dear Fellow travelers... I hope you are enjoying the great readings and posts we are sharing with you. Help is HERE!! We CAN change for the better..We CAN go from survivor to Thriver...WE CAN!!! I came from the most wicked kind of abuse by a PARENT!!! One who was supposed to love/cherish/nurture/pro...

david · david

https://themighty.com/2018/09/what-is-a-safe-person/?utm_source=newsletter_trauma&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=newsletter_trauma_2019-04-09&fbclid=IwAR16Y0vj7r...

Riley87 · Riley87

hello everyone, I am quite new to this... I actually just discovered this and I find it quite interesting... A little backstory on myself, I grew up with a functioning alcohol as my mother, I struggled quite a bit growing up... she was loving and then quite distant and harsh. She actually ended up in...

david · david

...well, yes it is- in the end. The process of letting go- emotionally just seems extremely hard- impossible even. It does not have to be done here. We adult children are just so resilient. We are born survivors. ... So if you are sitting here- and reading this through- I would count you as a survivo...

david · david

Hi y'all... not sure if this shows in the USA...!!! Please let me know- if not... ACA helps me through- gets me through- but Janet offered me hope. Right from the beginning.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	How Did You Find Us? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) As Co-Moderators, mamalioness and I are trying to re-energize this site and attract new members. We have several outreach initiatives, and would like to know which ones are working. How did you find out about this site? We hope you join our experience, strength, and hope! In Recovery, Prin...	Mrs_Snoopy	70	11848	Jun 11, 2020 by mamalioness
	Friendships/Relationships (Preview) I'm brand new here and was directed her by my thearpist. I'm the Adult daughter of an alcoholic father and perscription addict mother. I don't know if anyone else has this issue but I'm having a very difficult issue with friendships they we're all alcoholic's and relationships the guys we're either a...	Irishgirl	6	952	Jun 5, 2020 by Irishgirl
	Looking for a sponsor!!! (Preview) Hello, I am new, lost and dizzy. Looking for a sponsor. I do not know anything and I've got information overflow now. Like this is all I needed .. I do not know what a sponsor should do for me but I hope he/she can do only good things. Thanks, Lisa	Lisa Connely	3	2736	May 30, 2020 by AprilDenean
	New member (Preview) I wanna let go of the pain and move forward so I can love fully and not fearful or resisting How??	NeverHeard88	8	5215	May 29, 2020 by mamalioness
	New and Need Guidance (Preview) Hi everyone, Thank you for being here. I am 32, married for almost 6 years, a 1.5 yr old ray of sunshine and have 4 pets. I truly have a lot to be thankful for. I was able to cut my alcoholic and drama king father out of my life when I was 3 months pregnant. This was tough on my mother who unfortunately still live...	Puzzler88	8	903	May 28, 2020 by RubySlippers
	Where do I start? (Preview) Hi all, I'm just discovering about ACA and stumbled upon this site after listening to a podcast. Where/how do I start this journey?	ChrisJH	6	3434	Apr 4, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Step one (Preview) What is step one? Does it mean different things for different people? How long does step one usually take?	Kate1123	3	4474	Mar 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hello - My first post health problems new exhausted trauma grief (Preview) Brand New here. I came here at the urging of a therapist I have had 2 sessions with, regarding stubborn health problems. She wanted me to attend physical meetings, but as I am an older person and slightly disabled now, getting out at night to a meeting is risky for me, especially during this snowy, icy w...	phoenix	11	2371	Mar 20, 2020 by Orange
	Quick hellowhen I have (Preview) Just a quick hello, will introduce myself when I have more time	Kristin71	5	3178	Mar 20, 2020 by Orange
	Tired but THANKFUL (Preview) Hi ACA Family,, its me,tired but thankful to be a part of a great groups like mip , it was hard growing up in a alcoholic home,in my childhood home there were no disapline what so ever unless u disturbed the af while he watched his news on the nights he was sober which werent but few, i can remember walking on...	LU	2	3309	Feb 23, 2020 by AprilDenean
	Where do I start? (Preview) Really... It's such an open question... I'm seekings help. I've dealt with abandonment and approval seeking behaviors and so much more. In a relationship now.. . Maybe. .. Not so sure after last night. . But I'm beginning to realize the effects of my childhood on my life now. .. I'm angry, hurt, tired o...	Gbsb31	8	4705	Feb 4, 2020 by mamalioness
	Ready and willing for change (Preview) My path to recovery has had lots of sharp turns. I started attending Al-Anon meeting in June 2019, but after about 3 months I felt I was in the wrong place and started attending AA meetings. I got a sponsor and started working the steps, but again I still get the feeling like I dont belong and I dont feel lik...	flagship2020	6	1228	Jan 31, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Introduction (Preview) Hi, I commented on a post yesterday with a very short intro. I was made aware of ACA by my therapist back in about 1988. When I sat in that first meeting and recognized myself in most of the characteristics of adult children, I knew I belonged, except that I couldn't reconcile the fact there was no alcoh...	SongWoman	3	1049	Jan 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	Stuck (Preview) Tired of being depressed.Want to cry but feel stuck in my stomach.Thoughts all over the place.Phoned my son and a couple friends but didn't make me feel any better.Am angry also.was punching my bed.havent accepted my sisters death seem to be on a merry go round.got told don't stay in grief.Well how do...	Neos2	4	1878	Dec 27, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	new and lost (Preview) Hello all, I have recently rediscovered ACOA after talking to my mom about Al-anon and I would just appreciate some guidance from those who have been working on this for a while. I just turned 20 yesterday and I have been trying to navigate my relationship with my alcoholic father for the past 4 years. W...	forgrace	7	3325	Dec 26, 2019 by mamalioness
	Is abuse common for ACOAs? (Preview) My brother molested me when I was 11 years old which had severe consequences for me later in life. Is abuse common for us? What is wrong with people?	annt	9	4812	Dec 17, 2019 by mamalioness
	Step 12 to Step 0ne... (Preview) Hi y'all... I am an oldie here. It is Sunday morning already, here in NZ... looks like a warm day- coming up. Been in Alanon for 36 years. ACA took a while to start up here- in this country. And the whole nation only has four groups. Part of my dream/goal ... was to learn enough- with this internati...	david	8	3327	Nov 17, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Repeat After Me (Preview) Hi this is my first attempt at a meeting. I've been struggling with co-dependency that I inherited from my mom. My life has become unmanageable. So I'm doing this workbook called "repeat after me". It's a therapy for adult children of alcoholics. It's very difficult so far but also rewarding. I'm hav...	Naturalmama406	5	5139	Nov 14, 2019 by AprilDenean
	Newcomers (Preview) Hello, My name is Hannah from Australia. I am a member of AA and I am interested in ACA. My sister is very interested in joining ACA. I am going to pass this site to her today. She wants to find a female sponsor to take her through the steps. If anyone has availability and/or suggestions this would be great...	HM	23	9299	Nov 11, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	allowing happiness (Preview) I feel as though I have had an insight this morning. I have been struggling with scary thoughts, sadness and anxiety,at a time in my life that is supposed to be so peaceful and full of joy. I have a beautiful life, fabulous husband, I live in a gorgeous part of the country I am sober nearly 40 years, I am hea...	shiloh	4	4346	Sep 7, 2019 by david
	A link I found helpful, this morning... (Preview) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxnx72ouewA&t=64s	david	0	4697	May 28, 2019 by david
	Today's reading from SMR... (Preview) [https://adultchildren.org/meditation/] -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:06:27 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:07:07 AM -- Edited by david on Monday 27th of May 2019 04:04:46 PM	david	1	5835	May 27, 2019 by david
	Boundaries... (Preview) Hi y'all... I tried to understand boundaries- which were invisible, and ephemeral... so I focussed on personal space- and was mostly aware of other people's personal space. So then I began to focus on my own. I felt that my true self was emerging from the trauma [stored] and the gloom... and it...	david	0	6280	May 27, 2019 by david
	Monday morning- and those blimmin steps...!!! (Preview) Hi y'all... those Americans are real fanatics on dem der steps... Not so hot on the traditions, apart for the first one or two... [in my view]. On this board we have the steps, traditions, and the concepts... ...that means do have a structure behind us- and safeguards... for embers... member...	david	0	6316	May 26, 2019 by david
	Aftermath of Sexual Abuse. (Preview) I keep feeling suicidal, rage, and sick to my stomach. I don't know how to cope.	annt	23	9786	May 20, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Just wanted to stop in and say "HI" to our newbies (Preview) Dear Fellow travelers... I hope you are enjoying the great readings and posts we are sharing with you. Help is HERE!! We CAN change for the better..We CAN go from survivor to Thriver...WE CAN!!! I came from the most wicked kind of abuse by a PARENT!!! One who was supposed to love/cherish/nurture/pro...	mamalioness	4	1875	Apr 25, 2019 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Being emotionally safe... (Preview) https://themighty.com/2018/09/what-is-a-safe-person/?utm_source=newsletter_trauma&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=newsletter_trauma_2019-04-09&fbclid=IwAR16Y0vj7r...	david	2	7508	Apr 24, 2019 by The Poet
	quite new (Preview) hello everyone, I am quite new to this... I actually just discovered this and I find it quite interesting... A little backstory on myself, I grew up with a functioning alcohol as my mother, I struggled quite a bit growing up... she was loving and then quite distant and harsh. She actually ended up in...	Riley87	3	6390	Mar 29, 2019 by Neos2
	So, do you think this is easy...? (Preview) ...well, yes it is- in the end. The process of letting go- emotionally just seems extremely hard- impossible even. It does not have to be done here. We adult children are just so resilient. We are born survivors. ... So if you are sitting here- and reading this through- I would count you as a survivo...	david	1	8892	Mar 12, 2019 by pkc107
	My heroine- gave me a life worth living... (Preview) Hi y'all... not sure if this shows in the USA...!!! Please let me know- if not... ACA helps me through- gets me through- but Janet offered me hope. Right from the beginning.	david	0	4541	Mar 4, 2019 by david
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