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Queenie · Queenie

Hi everyone, I hope I am doing this right. Im new to ACOA. Ive been looking into getting help since my mom passed away in 2018. But then, you know life/Covid. Well, here I am, making an effort. My mom was a chronic alcoholic to the point that she eventually lost everything and became homeless. She l...

Nightowl · Nightowl

Hi. I consider myself to be largely ok with dealing with ACOA side effects. By that I mean, I've done a lot of work on myself, learned to feel the fear and do it anyway, to move passed all the little thoughts that tell me to give up. Self sabotage, putting others first, neglecting myself, people pleasing,...

TraditionNerd · TraditionNerd

I'm 18 years sober and just started ACA/ACoA on the 18th of June 2021. I've been attending ACA on Zoom. I got the BRB and am seeing myself all over the place. I've got the yellow book, the Laundry List workbook, and the meditation book. I'm having a hard time with this Loving Parent and becoming your o...

John Milton · John Milton

Does anyone else here suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder? Also, does anyone use the Calm app? I find it very helpful. One challenge that I face is REALLY being able to love myself, or feel worthy of love. And the feedback that I get from my wife, supports this observation. Many times I hear th...

Keaf · Keaf

All the way from Helsinki, Finland. I'm 44, father of two (17 and 18), a husband. I have a 25 year long history with depression and anxiety. It's always been clear to me that my issues mostly stem from my father: he was a son of an alcoholic, depressed as well, and not equipped with any mental faculties to b...

JamesCT · JamesCT

Click the meeting link above and join us!

MoMo74 · MoMo74

Hi, this is my first post here. I have not been to an ACA or AlAnon meeting yet, but plan to go to one this week. I'll try not to make this too long winded. My mom is an alcoholic in very strong denial. My parents very rarely drank when I was a kid. I grew up in Indiana but moved to Connecticut after colleg...

ryanlawsons · ryanlawsons

Hello. This is my first post here. I've not attended an ACA meeting yet. I have lately been struggling with some experiences in meetings in AA. Specifically speaking, I watched a man passively aggressively make fun of 2 people during his share. One of those persons he mocked was the person chairing th...

SilkeH · SilkeH

Dear Fellow Travellers, Silke here, adult child from an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. I am relatively new to the world of ACA though I knew for a long time my dad is an alcoholic (sober these days) and my mother is a co-dependent with a narcissistic personality. Joining the forum here is real...

GoWalkFree · GoWalkFree

Hi, This is my first post here. I will keep it short and to the point. I have 5 years of sobriety. 100% clear of drugs and alcohol. I am in my early 30s, a female. I live with my alcoholic mom. This has not been easy ever, especially not during COVID. I am in two 12-step programs for my addiction and codepe...

lawwwrrenn · lawwwrrenn

Hello all. My name is Lauren. I am 30, married, and we just purchased our very first home!!! I've been in counseling for a few years now, between conventional therapy and also DBT. I am really wanting to get some healing done so that I feel ready to actually start our own little family (having kids, etc)...

Ron · Ron

Hey everyone. I'm Ron, 23 years old, and an adult-child of two alcoholic parents. I am a newcomer here. I have been working through ACoA trauma since adolescence. I started therapy at 15 years old, and have been in therapy since... but I feel like I am at a stand-still and am going nowhere with my recove...

Daniela · Daniela

I'm new and wondering how the meetings work. Do we use video?

taher · taher

hello i just joined today. I am 40 years old living with "mommy and daddy" as they are now seniors 64 and 75. I can't catch a break, I got into an arranged marriage I am not really wanted 5 yrs ago parents got me into this with her i know they meant well but just not the path I want to take want to start fresh on...

cobaltblue · cobaltblue

Has anyone done any reading comparing ACOA and the latchkey generation? The more I read about it, the more it seems all kids that grew up in late 60's to early 80's could relate to feeling abandoned. How did some come out of it without the alcoholic parents and arrive at the SAME problems as adults?

BennusMaximus · BennusMaximus

Hello everyone, my name is Ben, you can call me Benny. I was directed to ACA after a talk with a good online friend and found this forum, I was thinking about joining a meeting sometime and seeing what kind of community I can find here. I grew up with an alcoholic father and a mother that couldn't care less...

justvisiting · justvisiting

Hello friends, I'm brand new to ACA and joined this forum to add another spoke to my wheel of support. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with an alcoholic father, a codependent mother, and a younger brother with significant mental health/addiction struggles. I'm 3 years in recovery from substance...

sharLove51 · sharLove51

This made my day so decided to share with you guys. Thank you for the love and feedback on my last post. Hope this helps someone. ________________________________________ What parents should teach their kids? I know you want me to approve of you but you need to make your own choices, even if they...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I remember 2004, February, very clearly, I was scared..I didn't think the program would help me...I thought I would be shunned at the very least with my horrific injuries/wounds...like HOW could I share "THAT" with strangers??? and be OK, much less loved??? I just could not see it and some of the p...

Chi_Aca_ADHD · Chi_Aca_ADHD

Hi guys, So I am amazed at how much the ACA traits, stories i've been reading/hearing resonates with me. After 9 days of listening, I started going over the Yellow workbook. It recommends finding a sponsor. I believe that an ACA sponsor with ADHD whose first 12-step was ACA would be best suited to un...

RiverM · RiverM

hello... my name is river. i hit bottom in 2017 after being hospitalized right after my high school graduation for suicidal thoughts. a few months later, i found ACA. i've been attending meetings on/off since then (consistency was a bit difficult the last two years due to moving twice, but i'm now att...

Cicada_Shell · Cicada_Shell

Hi Everyone. Ive come here at the advice of my therapist, although Im not sure exactly what to do with myself. Ive only recently started in on this journey, so I havent quite gotten a plan yet. I really just want to heal, whatever that means. So, to start, I am the daughter of two alcoholics (my mom also da...

alexa · alexa

Hi everyone, I'm new to the group and sort of stumbled upon it by accident. I suffer from a lot of mental health problems, and I believe that my experiences as a child growing up with an alcoholic parent has contributed to a lot of my mental health problems now and unhealthy thinking patterns. I wanted t...

DisneyRPGWarrior · DisneyRPGWarrior

Hello everyone =) I am 30 years old, currently in therapy due to my "ACoA Trauma syndrome". I never realized I was experiencing this until my husband suggested I go into therapy. So, Ill tell you a little bit about me...here goes: My father is an alcoholic who through my life went through the motions o...

ZenDancer · ZenDancer

Hello friends! My name is Lucas - I'm new to the forum. I've been in recovery (AA and DA) for some years now, but only recently have come to see just how much of an ACA I am... 'Approval addiction' and fear of disapproval and abandonment have always been huge issues in my life.. in many ways they are like cor...

Rachelf075 · Rachelf075

Hi, Im a single mom and an only child of an alcoholic mother. From a young age, I always felt like I was outside looking in. I?ve been terrified of ending up alone because for many reasons. One is that I know when my parents die, it?ll just be me. And I wanted to start my own family so I could belong somewhere....

Chaosmagika · Chaosmagika

Dear fellow souls I am completely new to this and find myself against the ropes so to speak, I was put onto ACA through a wise friend further down the path than myself, Im just looking for advice on finding an online support groups to start my healing and recovery, knowing and admitting I have lost all con...

T3 · T3

Hello folks, So for a start, I'm a 21 year old Adult child of an alcoholic that recently just realized I needed to stop putting off what trauma I went through and actually take initiative to reach out and heal. That leads me here, unsure where to start. Recently I picked up the Big Red Book and also read Jan...

mamalioness · mamalioness

BIG WELCOME to all of you newcomers...SO glad to see you joining us I just wanted to say that when you make your profiles out, some use the first and last name...OVER 4,000 People can see that...So suggestion is to use first name and maybe last initial or no initial...Date of birth is risky as well..... W...

Irishgirl · Irishgirl

I just wanted to bring this up because its been critical to my healing process. I've been through so many things in my life it honestly was a life saver. I write in it almost every night but what is amazing (I've been doing it for years) when I look back its amazing the growth I made and all the evolving I've d...

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	New person here/is this right? (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope I am doing this right. Im new to ACOA. Ive been looking into getting help since my mom passed away in 2018. But then, you know life/Covid. Well, here I am, making an effort. My mom was a chronic alcoholic to the point that she eventually lost everything and became homeless. She l...	Queenie	5	1663	Oct 19, 2021 by mazza
	New and evaluating. (Preview) Hi. I consider myself to be largely ok with dealing with ACOA side effects. By that I mean, I've done a lot of work on myself, learned to feel the fear and do it anyway, to move passed all the little thoughts that tell me to give up. Self sabotage, putting others first, neglecting myself, people pleasing,...	Nightowl	6	1763	Oct 19, 2021 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Hi I'm new (Preview) I'm 18 years sober and just started ACA/ACoA on the 18th of June 2021. I've been attending ACA on Zoom. I got the BRB and am seeing myself all over the place. I've got the yellow book, the Laundry List workbook, and the meditation book. I'm having a hard time with this Loving Parent and becoming your o...	TraditionNerd	2	2777	Jul 26, 2021 by Mrs_Snoopy
	New on the board (Preview) Does anyone else here suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder? Also, does anyone use the Calm app? I find it very helpful. One challenge that I face is REALLY being able to love myself, or feel worthy of love. And the feedback that I get from my wife, supports this observation. Many times I hear th...	John Milton	2	2861	Jul 13, 2021 by mamalioness
	...so Hi! (Preview) All the way from Helsinki, Finland. I'm 44, father of two (17 and 18), a husband. I have a 25 year long history with depression and anxiety. It's always been clear to me that my issues mostly stem from my father: he was a son of an alcoholic, depressed as well, and not equipped with any mental faculties to b...	Keaf	5	1683	Jun 23, 2021 by mamalioness
	We're having a meeting in less than an hour! (Preview) Click the meeting link above and join us!	JamesCT	1	2148	Jun 9, 2021 by Mrs_Snoopy
	First Post! (Preview) Hi, this is my first post here. I have not been to an ACA or AlAnon meeting yet, but plan to go to one this week. I'll try not to make this too long winded. My mom is an alcoholic in very strong denial. My parents very rarely drank when I was a kid. I grew up in Indiana but moved to Connecticut after colleg...	MoMo74	2	945	May 5, 2021 by mamalioness
	Newcomer - Resentments (Preview) Hello. This is my first post here. I've not attended an ACA meeting yet. I have lately been struggling with some experiences in meetings in AA. Specifically speaking, I watched a man passively aggressively make fun of 2 people during his share. One of those persons he mocked was the person chairing th...	ryanlawsons	2	1977	May 5, 2021 by mamalioness
	Greetings Fellow Travellers (Preview) Dear Fellow Travellers, Silke here, adult child from an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. I am relatively new to the world of ACA though I knew for a long time my dad is an alcoholic (sober these days) and my mother is a co-dependent with a narcissistic personality. Joining the forum here is real...	SilkeH	2	1937	May 5, 2021 by mamalioness
	Looking for a refuge. Newcomer (Preview) Hi, This is my first post here. I will keep it short and to the point. I have 5 years of sobriety. 100% clear of drugs and alcohol. I am in my early 30s, a female. I live with my alcoholic mom. This has not been easy ever, especially not during COVID. I am in two 12-step programs for my addiction and codepe...	GoWalkFree	2	2395	Apr 1, 2021 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Absolutely overwhelmed new newcomer first post (Preview) Hello all. My name is Lauren. I am 30, married, and we just purchased our very first home!!! I've been in counseling for a few years now, between conventional therapy and also DBT. I am really wanting to get some healing done so that I feel ready to actually start our own little family (having kids, etc)...	lawwwrrenn	3	1353	Feb 8, 2021 by mamalioness
	Newcomer. Looking for some light. newcomer (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm Ron, 23 years old, and an adult-child of two alcoholic parents. I am a newcomer here. I have been working through ACoA trauma since adolescence. I started therapy at 15 years old, and have been in therapy since... but I feel like I am at a stand-still and am going nowhere with my recove...	Ron	6	1364	Jan 20, 2021 by mamalioness
	How do we log in to the meetings? (Preview) I'm new and wondering how the meetings work. Do we use video?	Daniela	2	2130	Jan 3, 2021 by mamalioness
	just saying hi (Preview) hello i just joined today. I am 40 years old living with "mommy and daddy" as they are now seniors 64 and 75. I can't catch a break, I got into an arranged marriage I am not really wanted 5 yrs ago parents got me into this with her i know they meant well but just not the path I want to take want to start fresh on...	taher	4	1961	Jan 2, 2021 by mamalioness
	GenX & Latchkey Kids (Preview) Has anyone done any reading comparing ACOA and the latchkey generation? The more I read about it, the more it seems all kids that grew up in late 60's to early 80's could relate to feeling abandoned. How did some come out of it without the alcoholic parents and arrive at the SAME problems as adults?	cobaltblue	2	2583	Jan 2, 2021 by mamalioness
	Newcomer (Preview) Hello everyone, my name is Ben, you can call me Benny. I was directed to ACA after a talk with a good online friend and found this forum, I was thinking about joining a meeting sometime and seeing what kind of community I can find here. I grew up with an alcoholic father and a mother that couldn't care less...	BennusMaximus	6	2428	Dec 27, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Another Newcomer (Preview) Hello friends, I'm brand new to ACA and joined this forum to add another spoke to my wheel of support. I grew up in a dysfunctional family with an alcoholic father, a codependent mother, and a younger brother with significant mental health/addiction struggles. I'm 3 years in recovery from substance...	justvisiting	2	2308	Nov 21, 2020 by Orange
	For my fellow travelers. I will leave this here. (Preview) This made my day so decided to share with you guys. Thank you for the love and feedback on my last post. Hope this helps someone. ________________________________________ What parents should teach their kids? I know you want me to approve of you but you need to make your own choices, even if they...	sharLove51	1	2069	Nov 21, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	To all our lovely newbies (Preview) I remember 2004, February, very clearly, I was scared..I didn't think the program would help me...I thought I would be shunned at the very least with my horrific injuries/wounds...like HOW could I share "THAT" with strangers??? and be OK, much less loved??? I just could not see it and some of the p...	mamalioness	5	841	Oct 4, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Yellow book sponsor (w' ADHD)? ADHD ACA Sponsor (Preview) Hi guys, So I am amazed at how much the ACA traits, stories i've been reading/hearing resonates with me. After 9 days of listening, I started going over the Yellow workbook. It recommends finding a sponsor. I believe that an ACA sponsor with ADHD whose first 12-step was ACA would be best suited to un...	Chi_Aca_ADHD	4	3181	Sep 15, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	new to the forum but not to the program :-) (Preview) hello... my name is river. i hit bottom in 2017 after being hospitalized right after my high school graduation for suicidal thoughts. a few months later, i found ACA. i've been attending meetings on/off since then (consistency was a bit difficult the last two years due to moving twice, but i'm now att...	RiverM	3	1081	Aug 23, 2020 by Orange
	New Traveler on this Journey (Preview) Hi Everyone. Ive come here at the advice of my therapist, although Im not sure exactly what to do with myself. Ive only recently started in on this journey, so I havent quite gotten a plan yet. I really just want to heal, whatever that means. So, to start, I am the daughter of two alcoholics (my mom also da...	Cicada_Shell	4	2081	Aug 23, 2020 by Orange
	New and Looking for Resources (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the group and sort of stumbled upon it by accident. I suffer from a lot of mental health problems, and I believe that my experiences as a child growing up with an alcoholic parent has contributed to a lot of my mental health problems now and unhealthy thinking patterns. I wanted t...	alexa	3	843	Aug 23, 2020 by Orange
	New Comer - Adult Child of an Alcoholic (Preview) Hello everyone =) I am 30 years old, currently in therapy due to my "ACoA Trauma syndrome". I never realized I was experiencing this until my husband suggested I go into therapy. So, Ill tell you a little bit about me...here goes: My father is an alcoholic who through my life went through the motions o...	DisneyRPGWarrior	8	2305	Aug 23, 2020 by Orange
	hello fellow travellers :) (Preview) Hello friends! My name is Lucas - I'm new to the forum. I've been in recovery (AA and DA) for some years now, but only recently have come to see just how much of an ACA I am... 'Approval addiction' and fear of disapproval and abandonment have always been huge issues in my life.. in many ways they are like cor...	ZenDancer	4	3033	Jul 28, 2020 by Orange
	Lonely / single mom and only child (Preview) Hi, Im a single mom and an only child of an alcoholic mother. From a young age, I always felt like I was outside looking in. I?ve been terrified of ending up alone because for many reasons. One is that I know when my parents die, it?ll just be me. And I wanted to start my own family so I could belong somewhere....	Rachelf075	1	3557	Jul 5, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	Complete beginner looking for a online group (Preview) Dear fellow souls I am completely new to this and find myself against the ropes so to speak, I was put onto ACA through a wise friend further down the path than myself, Im just looking for advice on finding an online support groups to start my healing and recovery, knowing and admitting I have lost all con...	Chaosmagika	8	2613	Jun 29, 2020 by Mrs_Snoopy
	I'm a Newcomer and I have no idea what I'm Doing (Preview) Hello folks, So for a start, I'm a 21 year old Adult child of an alcoholic that recently just realized I needed to stop putting off what trauma I went through and actually take initiative to reach out and heal. That leads me here, unsure where to start. Recently I picked up the Big Red Book and also read Jan...	T3	3	1981	Jun 21, 2020 by soob63
	PROTECT YOUR ANONYMITY (Preview) BIG WELCOME to all of you newcomers...SO glad to see you joining us I just wanted to say that when you make your profiles out, some use the first and last name...OVER 4,000 People can see that...So suggestion is to use first name and maybe last initial or no initial...Date of birth is risky as well..... W...	mamalioness	4	3336	Jun 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Daily Journaling (Preview) I just wanted to bring this up because its been critical to my healing process. I've been through so many things in my life it honestly was a life saver. I write in it almost every night but what is amazing (I've been doing it for years) when I look back its amazing the growth I made and all the evolving I've d...	Irishgirl	3	2941	Jun 13, 2020 by Orange
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