This made my day so decided to share with you guys. Thank you for the love and feedback on my last post. Hope this helps someone. ________________________________________ What parents should teach their kids? I know you want me to approve of you but you need to make your own choices, even if they run counter to what I think you should choose. Saying no to make room to take care of yourself is not selfish. You are not responsible for the emotions of others. You can't do anything about what others think of you. Disappointing others and being misunderstood are inevitable. Boundaries are necessary. Your body belongs to you, your things belong to you and you decide what you want to share about your feelings and your thoughts. I am your parent but I am not perfect. I make a lot of mistakes. The answers to what you want, what you need and why something hurts are not in your thoughts. They are in your body. This is why its essential that you dont resort to numbing it: this is the equivalent of not hearing yourself. You need to learn to spend time alone. Its like finding the treasure map. All your emotions are OK. I will never tell you that you are too sensitive or too dramatic. What you perceive is real. I will never claim that the fight you witnessed did not take place. Making mistakes does not make you bad. Making mistakes is human. People are not that concerned with you. They are concerned with themselves. We can disagree. You don't need to think like me. I am going to show you how to breathe. Among many other things, it's a tool to regulate your own emotions. We will always practice clearly communicating what we need. Feelings feel they are forever but they are all fleeting. Whatever you are feeling now is going to change. You are not your thoughts. You are not your ego but you should learn how to identify her because listening to her leads to dissatisfaction. Other people's actions do not define you. You need to do what you say you are going to do, in particular when it's for you. Play and rest are just as important as work. Create something. This is what you should be doing with your time. Everything you need is already inside you. I know, because I firmly placed it there when I made you. - Dushka Zapata Love and gratitude, Shar.