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1. Low or no self-esteem 2. Often feels responsible and blames self 3. Inability to trust self and others (may trust, but trusts wrong people) 4. Sense of worthlessness 5. Isolation 6. Sense of being helpless 7. Strong denial system 8. Low or no body awareness 9. Numb the pain with drinking, drugging, sexing, eating, etc. 10. Physical and medical symptoms may be a lot of body complaints 11. Prostitution 12. Suicide taking anger out on self 13. Sense of emptiness 14. Loss of playfulness and spontaneity 15. Many become abusive
Protective Defenses Used to Deal With Abuse
These defenses interfere with developing relationships on an adult level. 1. Silence 2. Denial may be believing its not happening 3. Dissociation becoming the spot on the ceiling 4. Numb feelings 5. Change feelings from anger to ________. 6. Change meaning of abuse child may be told, This is good for you, so child may think Doesnt this happen to all kids? 7. Isolation stay away from home, etc.
Recovery From Abuse
1. Share your story you dont need to deal with pain alone 2. Believe your story you have a tendency to discount 3. Establish perpetrator responsibility recognize it isnt about you 4. Address the addictions used to numb the pain 5. Realize you can deal with the pain without mood altering substances 6. Learn to recognize, then accept, and then communicate feelings 7. Learn to nurture yourself 8. Build self-esteem and positive body image (affirmations) 9. Deal with family of origin break the code of secrecy by writing and talking with other people 10. Learn to be playful 11. Learn that now you do have a chance to live, you do have choices YOU NEED NOT BE A VICTIM 12. Take back your power act responsibly, set boundaries that feel comfortable, control sexual behavior you can control who enters your life 13. Remind yourself of your strengths 14. Learn you can say No 15. Learn to give and receive criticism 16. Stop abusing others
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ROSIE, a work in progress!!!
Keep it simple__Easy does it__Keeping the focus on me--AND___"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart" ~ Unknown
hey Naturalmama, on the main board (you gotta join up to access it) we do a LOT of sharing and caring...great posts and recovery stuff , even 12 steps worksheets.....this board is 75% of my finding success in moving forward in my life....
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ROSIE, a work in progress!!!
Keep it simple__Easy does it__Keeping the focus on me--AND___"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart" ~ Unknown
Oh I am glad you found some good in this. I do a lot of research on stuff like this and try to share it on the board because I think it is so imperative that yes we work the steps and the slogans and program literature but I believe in research and finding good information from other sources to share
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ROSIE, a work in progress!!!
Keep it simple__Easy does it__Keeping the focus on me--AND___"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart" ~ Unknown
