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Getting Through Hard Times
We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing.
Codependent No More
Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward.What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice.We can use the energy of hard times to work out, and work through, our issues. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality. Or we can go through these situations suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change.Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of living, loving, and growth.The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude, toward the event? Will we question life and our Higher Power by asking what we're supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old, negative beliefs? Will we say, "Nothing good ever happens to me... I'm just a victim... People can't be trusted... Life isn't worth living"?We do not always require hard energy, or stress, to motivate us to grow and change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it's there, we can learn to channel it into growth and use it for achieving what's good in life.God, let my hard times be healing times.
Been processing a lot on letting go. Being kind to myself. Not depending on others for approval. Not the funnest stuff but... life happens!
I feel strong today. Maybe its the shitstorm of life this past year loosening up. Maybe its that Im getting more sleep. Maybe its exercising again. Im not sure. I wish I always felt this confident and believed in myself this much. I know thats not always to be had. But today, even admist some life discomforts... it feels damn good.
dear ceslavie...powerful post you shared..Thank you....and I agree...we had to be strong to survive, but our edges are chipped..our foundations have cracks from the abuse, hence we are fragile..I know I am.....and change and loss, is hard for me...life pained me out long ago, and I have to make my peace on my own terms , in my own time....and yes, what we do with the bad karma is our choice..when I get too many "hard energies" I take a nap...work a step....blast my tunes and rock out on my rowing machine...or another piece of gym equipment I have....I've been doing a lot of "letting go" too...old , bad survival skills that hinder me instead of helping me...dealing with the self sabateur whom I want to throttle at times.....
I am agnostic..in that i don't buy into any diety working in my life, not really...I have a higher power within who wants the best for me as PK said in her post to you, and if I get quiet and LISTEN, i can follow the good prompts....i practice metaphysics in that good energy i put out??? good energy, I receive and that hard/negative energy hits not just me, I am not being singled out, it hits everyone....sometimes it cmes in waves...1 thing after another and I have to re-start my day over and over telling the negative energies to go back to their source..I don't own their negativity...i visualize myself standing in a big white light adn that white light cleanses me of any bad energies and they are sent into mother earth to be disolved, dispelled and dismissed from me.....AND I have learned NOT to fight the negative energies..that gives it/them more power....NON resistence is one of the most difficult things for me to practice since I am such a control freak.....as a child I was a powerless, hopeless, suicidal (yea, first attempt was at age 10, thats how bad life was) victim, but I am not a victim anymore....I survived...and I can take care of me now....
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ROSIE, a work in progress!!!
Keep it simple__Easy does it__Keeping the focus on me--AND___"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart" ~ Unknown
