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thats why I don't like being alone so many thoughts,when I need people the most they aren't there.Or were they ever.hate being the one to reach out all the time.never have my children phone.Im alwayys the one to phone.Same with friends.If I wasn't here I suppose I'd be missed but not really that's th sad part all the people I loved and cared about and poured my heart into don't really care and that hurts so so much.To love and no it be loved back.I love my kids so much yet nothing back.I give up.it hurts.Everything hurts



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We're here 24/7, Neos!

I think you are loved more than you know.

In Recovery,

Princess K.



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Neos,

my son never calls to ask  me how I am) And I ve  never heard from my friends that their kids do. May be it's natural?

I began to call my mom with this question not long ago -   when I felt  resentful towards my son and asked myself: Do  you  call your mom just to say hello?



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Neos. I apologize for this share, it was wrong. It is your share and your feelings. 



-- Edited by Jgirl on Friday 13th of October 2017 08:59:42 PM

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I agree with the posters.  My experience with family is if I'm not right there, fergitaboutit!!

In Recovery,

Princess K.



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Thanks everyone my emotions have settled down a lot went for a walk and talked to a pastor who has add also.Gave me a pamphlet on a type of emotional thing that goes on in the brain associated with add about perceived abandonment when there may not be any there at all.It made total sense to me.Thanks for your in out lets me know it's totally normal the way my kids treat me.Just my perceptions.Apparently psychotherapy is not very helpful because it stirs up the emotions .Thats why after a session I don't have relief but feel like a mess.Then go to someone else hoping it ll help.When there's nothing wrong with me or the way I'm wired .There never was anything wrong with me.No more finding out what's wrong to fix it.Theres nothing to fix.Its been my expectations so my giving wasn't unconditional.Thats ok.

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 Good insights Chris. I reflected a lot about retraumatisation.... [The word alone would spin the head!]

I had never earned to learn proper- having had so many knockbacks.

Had to give myself a chance to retrain the brain- by getting lots of rest and chilling out. I found letting go to near impossible.

But I made it somehow- because ah had to. wink

Like my accelorater pedal was full down and locked and I couldn't get into gear.

Lenny Cohen said it best...

 

 

 



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Wow. Lots of stuff here. I'd offer a hug to everyone, but....

Anyone ever read the book "I'm OK. You're OK"? Not recommending it. Wouldn't. This conversation simply brought it to mind.

Insight on much of this "thread" is in this wonderful song, and I feel it's truth:

www.youtube.com/watch

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Neos2 I apologize for my share above and deleted it. It was your share and feelings and story, not mine. (put it down here too so maybe you might read it).

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