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Post Info TOPIC: Family pattern: I did not learn how to get to know other people


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Family pattern: I did not learn how to get to know other people


Something I wanted to share however ended up unable to going to a meeting I was trying to:

My parents never really told me of their youth or their lives. I dont actually know very much about them.
A lot of my life I have been having this annoyance at people never knowing what I did typically, what I did when I was not around them/what was not "relevant" to them.

I have sort of inherited from them a pattern of non-relating; of not getting to know others in depth (while I am really good at it in some ways though).
I do not really know how to speak to others about myself, I never learnt how to. In some ways I guess I am really good at it however I lack entirely in other ways.

 

I dont know how to get to know people, I dont know how to befriend people.
My fathers father left him at an early age, perhaps he did not either.
I know in some ways how to build relations in a deeper ways than most.
I have no idea how to converse on a normal level except when stoned...



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ieei said:
"I do not really know how to speak to others about myself, I never learnt how to. In some ways I guess I am really good at it however I lack entirely in other ways.
I dont know how to get to know people, I dont know how to befriend people."
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That's what we are here for, ieei. You are not alone there.
Keep coming back! And to meetings. You WILL work it out.

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