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I have seen reference to the non WSO approved 12 Steps of Self Parenting.  What is the primary difference between this and the yellow book.  I have the red book, the yellow book and the laundry list workbook...although I could probably benefit from our meditation book too.

Any thought?  I would love to hear what is working for you.

Thanks in advance!

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Hi BreathingSince72, I am online today so here reading.
I don't know the difference, wish I could help there, do not have the yellow workbook. Hopefully someone else has the answer.
I do hope the self parenting steps help me because I think I need to learn to self parent. I need to feel more ease with myself a good deal of the time. I'll be going along just fine and wham, start to get reactive with the behavior of others. I am seeing more and more why that is, some of which is my immediate circumstances. I am strung too tight these days and need to learn in what ways it is acceptable to allow myself off the hook. 

In CoDA live meetings, despite the Melody Beattie slant towards the steps, I found some at the meetings that skewed the steps toward bizarre (IMO) religiosity and self righteousness. I'm a christian and was offended.



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Want to reiterate, for myself. LOL. I need clarity for myself with regards to why I am here because I do not care for some things, so need to keep my focus.
Melody Beattie was emphasized through her books, "Codependent No More" and "The Language of Letting Go" but her take on the steps, although acknowledged, actually was not used. Does seem to be used somewhat at MIP CoDA here online. At the live CoDA meetings in my town there was a definite AA orientation of the steps or what I have READ is AA's approach, have not been to AA. The BB was quoted and read from often at CoDA meetings which I found not acceptable.
I am glad some have found success in AA or other 12 step groups, but CoDA should be CoDA, IMO. It wasn't so I quit. Hope that ACA can stay ACA and there is tolerance for different points of view that are not the BB's.
So far, I find the self parenting steps challenging. I also use the CoDA workbook of the steps except for a few steps which I find overtly religious in it too.

(I have my own opinions what constitutes religiosity that might not mesh with views of others). 



-- Edited by Jgirl on Wednesday 9th of August 2017 07:27:22 PM

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-- Edited by Bob H on Friday 11th of August 2017 10:00:39 AM

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I googled this and found a book: https://www.amazon.com/12-Steps-Self-Parenting-Adult-Children/dp/0932194680 (not recommending, just a link).

Also, John posted these Steps in the third sticky link above.

In Recovery,

Princess K.

 



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I am a neophyte. I only use the Yellow Book. It's fine, OK at the very least. What I don't like I dismiss. By "don't like" I mean; what doesn't work for me or doesn't apply to me. It allows me to ruminate. I'm a huge fan of rumination.

I have to BRB. Just have it, in a drawer. The weight of it scares me. :)

Good luck '72!

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The BRB is a long read, but worth it!  I related to many of the stories.

I haven't done the Yellow Workbook.

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Princess K.



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BreathingSince72 wrote:

I have seen reference to the non WSO approved 12 Steps of Self Parenting.  What is the primary difference between this and the yellow book.  I have the red book, the yellow book and the laundry list workbook...although I could probably benefit from our meditation book too.

Any thought?  I would love to hear what is working for you.

Thanks in advance!

Victoria


 I think ANYTHING recovery related..self help, etc., anything that helps me get better, understand my issues,  not all gr8 literature is WSO approved...that does not mean it is taboo re: recoverying...I read ANY thing that will help me.......I started out with Melodie Beattie, and Burney, and Bradshaw, also online 12 steps worksheets, because I am child sex abuse survivor, i read books on how to manage my ptsd and how to go beyond surviving...etc....anything that resonates with me, i read.....and it is helping...all of it...like cooking a great soup...a bit of that , pinch of that, dash of this.....yea, i read anything that applies to my issues....Just saying



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A neophyte...right on.  I believe I have read that the yellow book is a restructuredversion of the seventh chapter of the BRB.  I've a strong sense you could hang tough with the BRB id you took it a page a day.  I absolutely love that you use what works and discard the rest. Enjoy your now.



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