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Testing the waters.

I am aware that I am not feeling safe here. Even though I know it is my responsibility to take care of myself, which I can do because I am an adult; and even though I am willing to stand up for myself, I feel alone, left to fend for myself and attacked for expressing needs.

I am not picking out or pointing to anybody . . . this is just sick dysfunctional shit! It is infectious!

I hear my inner voice saying "I don't need anybody" and maybe that is true, because I am an adult, but wanting to be supported is not wrong, bad or weak in any way,-in fact it is a strength. Years ago I really believed that I did not need anybody, and I was wrong. I do not need any particular individual, true, but I do need a supportive community where I am not attacked and where my boundaries are respected. If not here (online or in ACA) then somewhere else. I don't listen to sick voices anymore, inside or out. I know better and I will take care of myself, which includes maintaining a supportive network of people, for me, so that I can be even stronger and healthier than I have ever been.

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-- Edited by MMile on Monday 21st of November 2016 05:33:59 PM

 

Decided to come back today and "catch up" on the board. Ok that's done . . . I have moved on.

I find no attraction to watching train wrecks, Nascar seems like waiting for someone to crash and burn (for entertainment purposes), my FOO has engaged in lots of strange and dysfunctional behaviors . . . I have never enjoyed it. . .

I have found that hiding from dysfunction only encourages more of it, better to create a scene than to give silent permission (which is how submission is seen by sick people). I learned that a long time ago, but still do not feel comfortable in confrontations. That is probably a good sign.

no doubt this is just a phase . . . after reading a week's worth of posts . . . there are changes . . . one thing that is constant is change . . . I do however get to control my rate of change, where I focus my attention, where it will do me good and do good for others.

Done.



-- Edited by MMile on Monday 28th of November 2016 09:33:49 AM

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 biggrin By hook or by crook, I'll be first in this book! When ah were a kid many kids were given 'autograph books'. These were a great rite of passage, entertaining uncles and aunts- and friends- with natty quips or rhymes... which were far more sanitised than the rhymes we heard in the schoolyard.

So the quote at the head of this posting was usually the first- and then someone would add another on the inside cover [which I can't remember]. 

My memory is clearing day by day... but there are some places where a cloud still remains... what I really need is other people- who can jog memory, people with whom I can laugh... and that generates more memory. aww

It seems to me that a lot of my posts are non-sequateurs. By that ah means dat it is very difficult comment to pick up on. I really, really like it when people pick up on my posts- and it is a spur, for me, to keep sharing and to keep shedding my isolated frame of reference.

Obviously this is NOT the space to do this... I am looking forward to seeing more posts here! aww... biggrin... ... ... ... 



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Over the three years that I've participated here at the Adult Children Anonymous Message Board, I've tried a lot of different things to arrive at a generally 'comfortable', relatively 'safe', low-conflict mode of sharing my experiences and interacting with others as they share their own experiences.

The past week or so I've been reading a lot of my own and others 'old' posts...back to late '14 when I became involved. I can see that my general ease has grown. I am living more in the moment.

But/and still I tend to get involved in discussions where my involvement is (sometimes grossly) misconstrued. I suppose this is inevitable when the only thing I really know about 'you' is what you write...and the only thing you know about 'me' is what I write. Such is life.

There are no words that can express my gratitude for all of you here with me in this forum. Just as sometimes there are no words to describe my frustrations with it. I guess that's just another 'such is life' thing.

I'll keep groping around until I 'get it'...or I fall over, I reckon.

Attitude of Gratitude ... the phrase rolls around pleasantly in my 'mind'.

Maybe I'm 'calloused' (as in 'inured') in some ways. Maybe I've got a long way to go to be 'inviting' and reassuring. Then again, that might not be who I am...or why I am here. Maybe I talk (or write) too much. Maybe I'm too this and not enough that. [Now there's a recurrent theme!] But for today I am going to continue loving and respecting Life and Peace and Light.



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My world is full of non-sequiturs... I want this to end.

 

I wanted to enter my own pain body... and warm out the stored trauma. Was posting this morning, and then got to a place of stillness. There is still buzzing in my ears/head. I know it is in my head and not in my ears. it does not worry me. It is far superior to the pain which was once held there. It may have always bin there- just not noticed? Who knows. I feel like a pioneer in this issue. [or a fool, maybe!]

But my world it outwardly normal. Family life good- marriage okay. Work interesting and challenging...



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 In 1849 a stream of ships left Australia and New Zealand for the Californian goldfields. The population grew enormously, long before the institutions of state were able to marshal themselves.

A number of Australians had arrived there, in Australia, as his majesty's pleasure. Some did not find gold and had to revert to a former trade in order to live and to eat.

For a time "Judge Lynch" ruled supreme.

19 times out of 20 the mob  got it right and had nabbed the right man. They held what was called 'a kangaroo court'. This meant that the culprit was in for the high jump.

Today people have the right to defend themselves.



-- Edited by david on Tuesday 29th of November 2016 06:49:39 PM

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 Our group here has special attributes, I have not seen in other 12 step groups.

Won't say what they are... to describe might be to limit them... but suffice it to say

was built up around our own ESH... experience, strength and hope... smile...



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Hi everyone,
I am sober 20 years and hitting bottom again with living everyone elses life. Its driving me nuts. So today I am TRYING to practice what I have learned and stop talking about it. I am sick of talking about it and trying to fix everyone else. Thank you all for being here. I am trying to truly surrender my will and life over to God...and for me....everyone elses life.


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 No cross-posting here, y'all!

Tash and T put this up here... to see if anyone wanted uninterupted posts...

ah recall my mother's cry "I HATE PEACE!", and especially, 'don't annoy your father'.

Kind of scripting stuff... had its impact on my consciousness, ah suppose.... confuse...



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