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Post Info TOPIC: Rational vs Irrational: The 3 Key Questions to ask yourself about beliefs


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Rational vs Irrational: The 3 Key Questions to ask yourself about beliefs
 


Reference:  By Emmet Velten from REBT Resource Book for Practitioners www.rebt.org

1.  Does my Belief help me or hinder me over the long run?

Rational thinking is defined as thinking that is helpful to you over the long run. 

Irrational thinking is defined as thinking that hinders you over the long run. 

Follow-up question:  If my Belief hinders me, what Rational Belief would be more likely to help me reach my goals and to feel better? 

2.  Is my Belief consistent with known facts and reality?

Rational thinking is defined as thinking that is consistent with known facts. 

Irrational thinking is thinking that is inconsistent with (or unsupported by) known facts.

Follow-up question:  If my Belief is inconsistent with reality, then what Rational Belief would be more consistent with reality?

3.  Is my Belief logical?

Logical means thinking that makes sense.  For example, if you said you would very much like to succeed at something, does it logically follow that therefore you must succeed?  No, the necessity for success does not follow logically from the fact that success would be beneficial.  Or does it make sense to think:  "Because something is bad, I can't stand it?"

Follow-up question:  If my Belief is illogical, what Rational Belief would make more sense logically? 


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There are only two people who can tell you the truth about yourself an enemy who has lost his temper and a friend who loves you dearly. Antisthenes (Greek philosopher of Athens, disciple of Socrates, 445-365 BC)


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I have found this to be incredibly helpful for when someone starts going on a character assassination trip on me.  It helps me to see their logic is way off, and there for their attack is not grounded in reality.  If their attack is not grounded in reality, then at that moment they are being unrealistic. . .insane - which helps me tremendously to be able to detach and protect my own self esteem. 

A good example of this would be when I was growing up my mother accused me of a lot of things to justify her calling me a slut.  They weren't true.  They didn't happen.  Her accusations did not match reality.  She knew this because she convinced herself of it based on her own fantasy.  It was harmful, and it was insane.  I wish I had this then, but I do have it NOW. . .and there are times that my character is attacked by my husband . . .and this goes a long way toward the fact that what I'm being accused of is not true.  Period, end of story. 

On a personal level, my own fantasy life can lie to me and bring me into a state of paranoia and fear that is unmatched - if I let it.  This goes a long way to calming that stuff down, because it simply isn't true unless it becomes a fact.  I can't say what a person 'thinks' if they haven't 'said' what they think.  I can assume what their actions mean. . .but unless I ask them what their action meant, I really am in the dark about what it actually meant for them. 



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There are only two people who can tell you the truth about yourself an enemy who has lost his temper and a friend who loves you dearly. Antisthenes (Greek philosopher of Athens, disciple of Socrates, 445-365 BC)


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Hi Beth... Thank you for this!  I'm going to print it off and put it with my binder of "stuff..."

I have been reading today about mind-racing and how it keeps us from experiencing feelings in the present... This seems to be right in line with what you're describing here... I so appreciate having this information!!  aww


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